advice pls

[duytan]

I hope I will be able to explain this My nephew 6yrs is in the process of being diagnosed with asd or autism, His mother is having problems with the school they are helping out but some times they forget that he has problems and ask mum to discipline him and to tell him to stop what they think is unacceptable one was (e.g. today he would not interact with them, after talking to him they persuaded him to go into playground he took 1 step out saw black clouds and got upset that it was going to rain and hid inside so he didnt have to go out when teacher was trying to persuade him again he kept running away and pushing her away so he would not go out.

Teacher then asked mum to have a word and explain to son ,yes she does but he will not accept and it will go through 1 ear and out the other, mum does explain that he has difficulties but school dont really understand

What or how could mum approach this situation

Tell mum to make a note in a diary of anything that goes on at school for two reasons.

1 Its a great log for proffessionals to see to aid them in the diagnosis path.

2 You have a log that over the weeks you may work out patterns of events that are causing stress and the Mum can then arrange a meeting with the school to request that they avoid or alter certain methods or strategies that are not working.

I feel for her son and have spent a long time being told he needed disipline for his behaviours so I can understand how deflating and upsetting it can be.

Does he have a 1 to 1 at school? Does he have a statement of needs?

If she feels he is struggling at school both socially and learning then she can apply for a statement herself. Tell her to look at the IPSEA website for more advice and template letters to send.