OK. Can you stand another TA whine?
You may remember DS1 was having trouble with his TA who is a teacher but who has had no ASD training. This led to an incident, after a huge mix up over getting changed for PE, when the TA grabbed a book he was reading and snatched it from him after shouting at him.
I emailed the head about this before half term and it was not responded to - but we have spent two weeks trying to organise a mutually convenient date for a meeting.
DS says he has also been called rude, lazy and naughty. This was denied by the TA but she has called him rude in front of both myself and the head on one occasion so the smart money is on DS here.
I met with head and Senco today to get elements of outstanding provision in place. Head asked how DS and TA were getting on and asked me to be honest and I said things seemed to have got better but I thought that was because DS was just trying hard not to be in her way. I also emphasised that training was crucial for working with a child with needs. She seems so easily offended by his Aspie ways. Anyway, we left it at that and training was promised.
Then I get home today after a sports afternoon at school and we are talking about DS's move to his class next year which he is really looking forward to. I mentioned that his TA would be moving too and he started crying 
We talked about it and he said she was horrible to him sometimes and told him off when he didn't know what he'd done wrong and called him rude. She is also very dismissive. He fell last week at home time and she said DS2 who is 6 piped up that she had shouted at DS1 at lunchtime and he said she was 'really angry'.
DS1 says she is nice in front of everyone else.
I have suggested to DS that if this happens again he should mention it to another teacher.
I have told the head I have said this too.
I have made the school aware of all this but they are not commenting. There is no way a child wins taking on an adult who is prepared to call them rude when people aren't looking.