This is my 3rd child and the only one that is dx with HFA. My eldest has speech and lang, social communication. She got a statement easily. got a place in the Nuffield then another out of borough speech and lang school. Then when i wanted to send her to residential i had to pay for a solicitor etc to get her in. They laughing now as 3 yrs later i'm pulling her out and she's going to go to an out of borough special school in Sept.
Then things changed when she was 6ish and i was fighting for a statement for her sister.
She got a 2 and a 3 in the pre school celf. I had to plead with the paed for her to see the Nuffield Doc (she would only agree if i said no to an assessment to the unit). I didn't think she was as severe as her sister so i said no.
So she got dx with verbal and oral motor dyspraxia, i found her an infant school out of borough that was small (big mistake as school was totally rubbish) we had ipsea help and were heading to tribunial when the LEA backed down saying that as we chose a school out of borough that the money came out of a different kitty. Like a fool i believed them. She had weekly speech therapy and up to 20 hrs support.
Found out a few years later that she was severe enough that she should of gone to the Nuffield. She now 13 statement free and recently got a 7a in an english paper. When at yr2 she was a 'w'... Still can't do maths tho.
Son, slightly behind in speech, doesn't have verbal dyspraxia as the Nuffield check him out. Get's dx with ASD. He has attacked teachers, kicked a bathroom door of it hinges at school, threatened to blow up the infant school that he was at.
And now the tribunial process is changing again and by the sound of things, making it harder to get a statement for my son.
School getting a new head teacher soon and he's going up a year so hopefully a more understanding teacher, and i'm trying the omega, the epsom salts, the multi vits etc with him.