Should I of sent her in today?

[littlelegsmum]

Dd has got a major problem with the weather, which is obviously a huge problem in this country! Anyway, it's throwing down here and we've had to do the usual closing blinds, windows etc so she doesn't see or hear it.

Anyway, she's been in a state, on the loo a lot so I've kept her at home.

I'm just needing reassurance that I've done the right thing. Or should I of sent her into school in a state where she hides her fear as much as possible. I just feel torn.

I think it's the right thing. She can't control the weather. She never will be able to. She will have to somehow learn to deal with it IMO

if it's affecting her physically (ie so anxious she's going to the toilet more often) then yes i would say you've done the right thing for her

my DD is very obssessed with the weather, seasons and weather forecast.
she's reading too much into it, and can't handle the reality of unpredictability of the elements, even though she says she understands it

i had 2 days in the recent 1/2 term break where she wouldn't leave the house and we had curtains closed etc all day. she was very reluctant to get out of the car this morning as it was raining by the time she got to school.

i think i'm going to write a social story about weather changing for her, would this help your DD too, OP?

how old is she?

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_London_Eye_Mystery

Not sure how old she is, but this is a good story. The main character has an obsession with the weather!

I think you did the right thing if she was that anxious bless her.

DS is getting better now he hated the wind and the rain. It took months over the winter though.

We started off with just one of the curtains open and that had to start upstairs, then two curtains etc. Then when it was raining only I opened a window a crack and we had a game with a pot of bubbles trying to blow through the crack and see if it would make it before a rain drop popped it or it stuck to the other window. Gradually over time I opened the back window and gave him my computer swing chair. Told him to get on it so he could see out and gradually he put his hand outside so the rain drops fell on it. Explained it was a bit like having a huge shower in the sky. If he felt overwhelmed he could quickly turn the chair to face away from the window.

Now the wind is a different matter we have played the same game with the bubbles to see how high they get in the wind and we have played a game of shutting our eyes and guessing which creaking noise in the garden was what. I have said the little birds love the wind as they can sit on the branches and have a fair ride! He said he hates it because he cant see it and doesnt know when its going to hit him. He copes with a breeze but not full on gales.

coff that is exactly what DD says about the wind, she never knows how long it takes before she'll feel it, so every noise and rattle she braces herself for the noise, then the cold feeling

it's so sad

Thank you all for replying. I suppose I just wanted to see what other people would of done as there is no way I could of left her how she was. Then being told "oh, she's been fine all day and not even thought about it" once I collected her - even though, she'd come to me in tears. She suddenly has no fear when in school (according to them).

DD is 11 and that book looks really interesting - think i'll definitely need to do a social story and I will be purchasing that book - even if it's only from the library!

She has said she only feels better/safe with me, especially when it's raining and I don't want her to have to need me to feel safe or she will never settle. However, as I really understand her maybe she likes that.

It's so interesting that something so 'natural' (ie weather) can affect children so much. DD checks the weather etc and when it's windy too she gets much worse.

She has always screamed blue murder going through a car wash and has a tantrum if it's a shower, not a bath.