any tips on getting DD2.9 to relax+stay in bed pls?

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Dd has always slept well, gng up between 7.30-8pm and sleeping all night until 7am. 2weeks ago I moved her into a proper bed (her cot was v.big so hadn't felt it necessary until she learned to climb out 2weeks ago).
Since then I'm struggling to get her to get off to sleep at a decent time+its leaving her tired during the day+me without any evening time anymore.
She will only stay in the bed if I lie with her+ifeel like I'm starting a bad habit by doing this (I do this every night now for up to 2hrs sometimes).
I have a stairgate for her bedroom door (not up yet) to keep her from wandering around the house but she will keep getting out of bed+climbs things in her bedroom+it takes hours just putting her bk in bed evry 2mins (tryed this at the start+then decided it was easier to just stay in the room)
I don't mind lying/sitiing on bed if she went off to sleep fairly quickly+then gradualy leaving the room over time (this was my plan)
The main problem I find is that she cannot seem to unwind (she babbles constantly, kicks her legs out, or against the wall,screams at top of voice and I'm losing patience which I don't usually) we do look at books etc for a while before lights out-any other tips please?? Or have I just had it to easy with regards to sleep up until now?

My DS (3 years old, ASD), is like this from time to time. He sometimes will not go to sleep and goes on and on babbling (he cannot talk yet)...or he wakes up in the night upset and will not go back to sleep. I keep a fold-out foam mattress, duvet and pillow in a cupboard in his room, and at the first sign of non-settling/upset I just go and lie down on the mattress on the floor next to his cot. He climbs out of bed pronto, snuggles in with me and within a few minutes (usually) is asleep. I then ease my way out and can get back to my evening/bed depending on the time (of course sometimes I fall asleep and find myself still there in the morning, though!)

We do also have a stair gate on his bedroom door (a very high one that he cannot climb over) as otherwise he would be roaming the house at night and he is a climber with no sense of danger! He is however starting to show signs that he may be able to think about climbing over the special high stair gate so don't know where that will leave us! Nervous wrecks I imagine!

Thanks thedudesmummy your ds sounds very similar to my dd. She is being monitored by paed for possible asd. She only has a few words but babbles non stop, and climbs EVERYTHING and like you said 'no sense of danger' she is always bouncing around (the best thing we have ever bough her is her trampoline!) I do worry what she will get up to now she can get out of bed! I often find her climbed up on top of her dressing table if I leave the room before she is asleep!

Oh we don't even turn a hair any more when DS is seen on top of a chest of drawers/bookcase/televison etc. Visitors etc will be gasping and going OMG and dashing towards him and the family will be totally blase! We have however removed all rickety furniture, high bookshelves etc completely. the house is getting rather minimalist (or rather, filling up with his stuff as our stuff empties out!). We did get him a litle trampoline but mostly he pulls it around the house to use as a climb on to get onto higher shelves etc! He tends to run rather than bounce, and boy can he run! We have also had to velcro all the cushions down on the settees etc as he was taking them off and piling them into climbing towers....

No advice but just wanted to sympathise as in very similar situation.DD is 2.7, NV but very vocal and not good at sleeping.being assessed for ASD. Takes AGES to get her to sleep,regardless of whether she has slept in the day or not. Refuses to fall asleep in her bed,has to fall asleep on the sofa,then be carried to bed (my bed),DP spends majority of night with DS who has ASD.wakes up in night,cries,sometimes pulling and screaming to take clothes off(not always mind) goes back to sleep on sofa,has to be carried back again.then gets up 5.30-6.00.
I am
Actually planning on buying her a weighted blanket as she doesn't like her normal blankets/duvet and has sensory issues so hoping the weight might help!
As said,sorry not helpful but just so you know,you are not alone!

no magic advice as my ds with delays and asd slept so poorly before three and my nt dd who is now 3.5 can still be a pickle. But ds started sleeping brilliantly through the night at 3 ish and touch wood is still a good sleeper at six. I dont know how or why - he just now needs the sleep.

So my only advice is keep to a nice predicatable bedtime regime and keep putting your dc back in bed or at least in their room and hope for the best.

when they go to pre-school this can sometimes help as they get so tired and dont always have time to fit in a nap.

Weighted blankets might be worth a try too

Our DS is a bedtime babbler too (well, he's verbal so it's more random phrases these days). He went through a phase of taking ages to settle AND waking hideously early but has been loads better since we started using a zip-on duvet (the Gro-bag people sell them, avoids DS rolling around and his duvet falling off) and kind of tucking him into the free end like a sausage roll!

There was a similar post about this kind of thing on the Life With An Autistic Son blog, which I really like

autisticson.wordpress.com/2012/05/27/overnight-success/

Thedudemummy-lol at dragging the trampoline, we have that too, if we move things away to try+stop her climbing she just finds them+drags them back (the tool box once!) So she can use it again to climb up to where she wanted to be!
Jussi+late developer-thanks for the responses, I did consider a weighted blanket, really not sure if she would love it or hate it though?? She doesn't really like the ordinary quilt on her at the moment but I do think she is undersensitive to some things like sound+she licks everything and likes to play quite rough.
Worrier princess-thanks I hadn't heard of the grow bags, again not sure if she wld love or hate these, I do think she wakes earlier sometimes because she has no quilt over her by morning+gets cold or something as she is still tired when waking. Thanks for the link I will read that now :)