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Physio made dd cry

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jenk1 · 25/02/2006 12:21

Took dd to physio this week, she is now standing on her own since having her piedros fitted.

Physio said "she,s almost 2 we need to get her walking now" i said "but she doesnt want to, she,s happy to walk around the furniture and crawl to where she wants"
But no, the physio "made" dd walk 3 steps by keeping pulling her up and saying "come on now walk", eventually dd walked 3 very wobbly steps to me but was crying her eyes out.

i felt awful, she has CP and development delay and is very happy just crawling and walking round the furniture, IMO she will do it when she,s ready and forcing a child to do something that they dont want/are not ready to do cant be right can it ?

Or am i not seeing the full picture, is this what physios do with children like dd and im getting too upset over nothing?

Can anyone tell me what happens when your child sees physio so i can get this into perspective.

Thanks in advance

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Flossam · 25/02/2006 12:24

They aren't nicknamed physioterrists for nothing!! IME somtimes people do need a bit of a push. However, my experience is more on the side of rehabilitation of adults, not working with disable children. I hope you get more useful advice!

FrannyandZooey · 25/02/2006 12:30

Oh I meant to post about this on your other thread. I felt so sad for you watching her feeling miserable. I have no experience of this, but just wanted to sympathise with how torn you must feel between wanting her to progress and wanting her to be happy and comfortable.

Do you think dd is making progress by herself, even if it is slow, or do you think she needs the extra push? I do totally agree with you about letting children do things in their own time, but I am ignorant about special needs, do you think it is a different case this time? I will wait with interest to see what other people with experience of this think.

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jenk1 · 25/02/2006 12:35

yes i do think she is making progress albeit slowly in her own time but then with the conditions that she has thats to be expected, usually she,s so happy (apart from when i take her to nursery but thats another thread)and its obviousley not something that she wants to do, me and dh have been trying things that the physio has told us to do but she,s not interested, i asked the HV about this yesterday and she said "oh thats because you are mum and dad, she wont do it for you, she,s having you on keep trying her"

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bundle · 25/02/2006 12:36

jenk, Thomcat felt similarly when faced with the walking issue..it might be helpful to read it, x

coppertop · 25/02/2006 13:07

I have no experience of this at all but it sounds .

reiver · 25/02/2006 14:51

There's a world of difference between encouraging a child and forcing them to do something. We've seen several physios over the years and the ones who have gently encouraged have got the best out of my DD who has low muscle tone & hypermobility of joints.
You clearly have some reservations about it particularly if she's unsettled at the moment with starting nursery and it may all be too much for her. Does she have regular sessions of physio or is this a programme she wants you to follow at home on your own?

buzylizy · 25/02/2006 15:05

henk. this so reminded me of when I did conductive education with my dd she was about that age and she used to cry all the way through it. So did I. Can you not speak to the phisio and ask her why she is forcing her to do this. I have found that if I know the reasons behind something I better understand why It HAS to be done.
I have always liked phisio's but maybe you need to change to a different one. Have you tried conductive education?

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jenk1 · 25/02/2006 15:47

she,s really nice dd,d physio so im going to have a word with her at the next session.

Atm she sees dd once a month she has told me that she,d waiting for dd to start walking before she can asess her properly so maybe thats why she,s done this.

But we,ve stopped trying to make her walk on her own, she will walk holding our hands which i think is enough for her at this stage.

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buzylizy · 25/02/2006 17:50

wow that is good that she can walk holding your hand isn't she clever Have you ever tried getting her to hold something. when dd did ce she did quite well(long story) is you gave her a ring to hold with both hands.

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jenk1 · 25/02/2006 19:31

what sort of a ring did u use?

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Frizbetheexpansionset · 25/02/2006 20:02

Just a note from a personal point of view, I had a very bad neck problem when a kid, and basically my neck was stuck in one position for 6mths (not the normal forward facing one...it was stuck chin down, kinda welded to my right shoulder) anyway, when they'd finally found out the cause and treated it, then the physio had to begin, or it'd still be there to this day......the 1st thing they did was ask me to lie down on a mat, which I did and then the 'nice' physio lady took a good grip on my forhead and chin, and yanked my head upwards and straight over to the lefthand side, she then let me go for the day, screaming my head off ( I was 8), with my mother vowing never to take me back there again.......needless to say she did, with a lot of encouragement from the medical profession and my dad, and for which I am extreemly grateful, as otherwise who knows what condition I'd be in now.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, be brave for the sake of your kids, I know its horrible seeing them go through any kind of pain, but it will aid her in the long run.

Piffle · 25/02/2006 20:08

Our physio made my dd scream too at age 2 trying to get her to walk.
I got a bit arsey with the physio and said you know she will walk and can, does it matter when quite so much, I mean must it be now and if so then why?
dd walked on her own at 27 mths and you cannot now tell her from her peers (shes 3.3yrs) thats how little it matters.
Now we see physio when we are the clinic for other things (dd is no longer under physio since she walked) and dd calls her Naughty Diana and her word for physiotherapsit sounds a lot like piss artist
I'd explain pretty honestly about how it makes you feel, its your dd after all, your instinct rules...
I totaly sympathise and really remember how relieved I was when we got over that walking issue.
I was quite relaxed about it...

buzylizy · 25/02/2006 20:43

It had a proper name but it was just a ring like you get on a baby stacking toy. I think it helped her to "centre" and as she has afetoid cp it kept her arms stii. Allthough this is totally differnt from what you are talking about just thought it might give her a bit of comfort.
I read somewhere that cp is like feels like you are always falling(or words to that affect) so maybe your little one is just not ready to walk alone.

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jenk1 · 25/02/2006 22:05

yes would agree with you piffle,frisbee and buzylizy, i think dd will walk in her own time and i do appreiciate the physio and at the end of the day she,s trying to help dd, also buzylizy the physio said to me a few weeks ago that when a child who is so wobbly as dd stands up they dont have to confidence to walk without holding on to someone or something.

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