HELP!!!

[crazymare20]

hi first post an im sorry this maybe a long one.
Im just hoping that some of you lovely people can tell me how you knew your children had autism
My daughter (sorry dont know any short terms) will be having her referal next week for the child develoment unit. I have asked for this
Im not sure wether she has or not im trying to keep an open mind
this will be the long part (sorry)
My daughter is 3 years 5 months old. She has delayed speech but this is getting better everyday. She can now string 3 words together that make sense but most of her speech is very similar to baby babble
She repeats most things you say to her and its reeated perfectly
She has phases of being repititve with different with different things and objects but again these are alot better than they were a year ago
She was terrible with doors, she would open and shut them constantly and always banging them, ive lost count how many times she had them off the hinges
She used to line things up repeatedly through the day, mostly house hold things rather than her toy but she hasnt done it for about 6 months until recently when shes started doing it again but not everyday, more like once a week
Shes fascinated by music, she would rather watch the music channels on tv instead of cbeebies and every song she hears she knows and remembers. She always asks for music to be loud when we are in the car.
She sings alot throughout the day and alot of people have commented that they cant believe a child of her age knows as many pop songs as she does.
When she singing shes in a world of her own and generally running from one end of the room and seems oblivious to any thing else around her.
She loves being with other kids but doesnt really play she just enjoys being in their company. When she does play she is very rough and and when we tell her to let go (she grabs) she just doesnt hear us.
Her toilet training isnt to bad. She is dry and has been for around a year but she will not go for a poo on the toilet. Recently this is getting better and she has told me on accasion she needs a poo and she has gone to the toilet but most of the time she will hide and get on all four and poo in her pants.
But she has a 16 month old sister and she takes an interest in what her siter does in her nappy so im thinking maybe she poos in her pants because her sister poos in her nappy.
She didnt sleep through until she was nearly 2 years old
Her understanding is worrying as she just doesnt understand. She doesnt understand that running into the road could hurt her if shes hit by a car. She runs off an starts laughing with no awareness of what could happen as she just doesnt understand.

These are all the negative thing really, in all other ways shes like a normal 3 year old. Her behaviour is not bad at all and shes pleasant to be around. She loves a cuddle an loves her sister. And doesnt through a strop if i say no

Sorry again

yes thats it exactly. Shes having her referral on the 18th an im very anxious but i know it needs to be done

Good luck, we'll be here to hold your hand.

German Shepherds are my all time favourite breed. My first ever dog was an enormous rescue long-coated bitch GSD. I'd have another in a heartbeat, if my house wasn't already full to bursting. I have a Belgian Shepherd cross Border Collie and a big daft rough coated Lurcher.

and

Hello crazy and welcome. My dd (dear daughter) is 9 now but when she was about three and couldn't really talk much she used to sing hundreds of songs. Me being an old gimmer though and partial to sounds of the sixties on Saturday morning it was those she'd sing in perfect pitch. She still sings all the time now although no longer in perfect pitch (and she sings the more modern stuff as well now) as that went when she started talking.
She is also very polite the paediatrician who saw her at her assessment said she had the manners of a Lady. That added to the fact she speaks like a BBC newsreader rather than with a local accent makes her our very own Hyacinth Bucket . People find her very endearing though.
Dd has had her dx (diagnosis) autism for seven years now but I still remember feeling anxious and confused back then and worried that if a diagnosis was given then life would never be the same too. Now I see her dx as being a ways and means of getting her the support she needs and dd is just my dd that she always was.
This board is a lovely spot although I venture out sometimes for amusement because I'm sure some of them on the other boards live on a different planet to me sometimes
Good luck x

i do love hearing her sing even if it gets a tad annoying at times.

German shepherds are a big love of mine. Ive grown up with them

DS1 never stopped moving. He was wriggly from the moment he was born and wanted to be at everything. I found out about sensory integration disorder and realised he exhibited a lot of behaviours associated with being sensory seeking - the hyperactivity, the running in circles, the craving of deep pressure, yet hating gentle touches or dirty hands, need for noise, but hatred of loud noises. He would grunt loudly to regulate the noise levels around him. His reaction to DS2 being born was horrendous - it had already become clear that he had a lot of words but didn't use them to communicate, but he stopped talking for several days. When he started nursery, his reaction was quite extreme and he wanted nothing to do with the other children. After a chat with the foundation stage teacher, we sought an evaluation. He was diagnosed with ASD at 3 and ADHD at 6.

DS2 was very different. An easy baby who nursed much better than DS1 and didn't leave my nipples raw all the time. He was extremely passiveand very late with motor milestones. At 20m, he was only just walking and not talking at all, so we requested an evaluation (the paediatrician knew we already had concerns). He was diagnosed with ASD at about 27m (and already receiving portage at this point).

ouryve thanks for sharing that with me :)