That's what we're doing Agnes. We're going to appeal, but I want to know what's reasonable/realistic to ask for.
One of the biggest problem with ds is that he comes across as calm, polite and capable if a tad arrogant on first meeting. One to one, in a room with no distractions most people would think I was lying if I told them he has ASD. It's only when you're with him day in, day out and see him in different situations, trying to interact with his peers, struggling to cope and wracked with crippling anxieties, phobias and low self-esteem, that you start to realise he's nowhere near as high functioning as he first appears. Bless him he is lovely, but he is completely exhausting to be around.
His teacher this year has been fantastic, gone above and beyond for him over and over again and has always been willing to ask for advice on how to handle things, both from ourselves and outreach and she had limited experience of ASD before this year. If all teachers/TAs were like her, there wouldn't be a problem. That said, the poor woman has visibly aged several years and I can now compare how keen and enthusiastic she was at the beginning of the year that to the exhausted/defeated look and sighs of desperation we are seeing recently and know she's reached 'that point'.
Last year's teacher didn't get ds at all, was unwilling to adjust her way of working to meet his needs, kept telling me that he was 'doing it deliberately' and 'of course he can do it, he's just not trying' etc. She is the teacher that told me that there was nothing more she could do to help him with maths, as she'd tried everything and had nowhere left to go - and she is head of ks2 maths! (This year his maths grades shot up in the very first half-term and he has gone from strength to strength with it all year.) She couldn't cope from day 1, was visibly stressed and all but ready to resign by the end of the year, by which time she refused to speak to me at all.
Both attended the same one day, outreach run ASD awareness course that the school is now trying to tell me is 'enough' for ds's TA and both had the same amount of access to the same outreach teacher/team. In fact, if anything, last year's teacher had more support because the EP was working with both ds and her for a whole term while he was with her as well.
At this point we are working on getting the statement right for his final year at primary, we will then use Annual Review to push for the level he needs at secondary when he starts. We are planning to try and visit secondaries over the next couple of weeks and will see what they can and do offer in terms of support and then work with them at AR to come up with a package that suits his needs.
That is if, being academies, they don't suddenly stop taking pupils with statements following the result of tomorrow's case.