Hi just needed to let some steam off really, have finally managed to get him to nap.
Been on my own with him the last 2 1/2 day as DH been away with work (due back today) - but me and DS have both had colds. So have kept him mainly at home to get better, except today have felt so unwell myself that haven't done much with him (he has thought it was Christmas as was allowed to hijack iphone and ipad at same time!)
He has speech delay, has SALT and portage, and is awaiting an ASD assessment (been under developmental paeds for awhile)
We have no local family and there has been a split between those that are in denial and those that are extremely worried - it has not been easy treading the middle ground but I have as many of the professionals around him are confident he is making progress albeit all delayed.
Feel guilty as there are loads of exercises I am meant to be doing with him eg from SALT and portage and it is hard to do single handedly. DH has upped his hours as was offered promotion and wants to be able to provide for DS if he does go on to be diagnosed with SEN.
So there is more for me to do. Grandparents live far - one set too ill to help, the other in extreme denial about that DS might have issues "they all develop at different rates" and are blaming nursery (who they say have been pressured by ofsted guidelines) for the fact that something has been detected.
He goes to nursery 2 days a week, there is no room at that nursery for more. Do have friends locally but they are busy with their own kids and ?have backed off a bit as realise DS may need extra help (could just be my paranoia)
Apart from a winge, I was posting as did not want to hijack a thread further down about ?speech delay V ASD.
Someone had posted about how to help the acquisition of skills eg turn taking etc......... playing with other kids and this has been suggested by one of the professionals he sees. He gets some of this from nursery but it is hard on my days with him as he is an only child; in the playground, it is always different faces and it feels a bit odd "borrowing" random kids to assist in this task. It has made me worry about my own social skills as I feel nervous about the whole thing.......... anyone got any more strategies re this?
feeling like I need to get some flexible childcare who is happy to take DS ad hoc when needed - eg husband away/working late for my own sanity really.
I went freelance a few months ago to enable me to help DS more but in reality it has been hard to work much as without a set routine of days at work, it doesn't really fit with set nursery days.
anyway just posting to get this off my chest.
any kind input welcome