Feeling down, noticing the differences in the DSs :(

[Tiggles]

Posting here, as I'm sure you will understand.
DS2 (5) HFA had a question at the end of his reading book today "what do you do when someone is sad?" before he even had a chance to think DS3 (3)NT pipes up "Give them a hug".
DS2 looks at him. I ask DS2 again. He thinks and thinks then says "You tell them why they are sad".
DS1 (9) AS, says "You smile at them, because if someone smiles at you you have to smile back" (Yep he's learnt the rule, but not really grasped it)
[sigh], both of them outclassed by a 3 year old :(.

I can empathise, I have three boys and my older two have spectrummy issues, I communicate on a deeper level with DS 3, it makes me realise what I miss with the older two.

It is upsetting when they seem to be being overtaken by their younger siblings. But your DSs can learn the 'rules' even if it doesn't come naturally and I bet they never deliberately go about hurting other peoples feelings, which is more than you can say about some very NT people.

Thanks :)
Feeling perkier this morning.