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peanutbuttercup · 17/05/2012 01:59

DS is 7 and in year 3. He has been diagnosed with anxiety disorder and aspergers. He has been on fluoxitine for nearly 2 years - it has changed things dramatically for the better - we tried coming off it about a year ago with disatrous effects so he's on it for the time being.

We live in a big (ish) city in NZ. He goes to a large primary and has 30 + kids in his class. He's never been considered severe enough to warrant a teacher aide, previously he's had an IEP but doesn't have one this year.

Problems at school have come and gone and usually relate to friendships but mostly behaviour in class. His teacher last year had some good positive reinforcement strategies in place. This year he seems to be sent to time-out instead - every day. I really get the impression they think his behaviour is deliberate and naughty. I think alot of it is due to anxiety and boredom.

Over the hill from us only 7 mins away is a rural school with only 22 pupils in the whole school. They have two teachers and usually a student teacher also. It covers up to year 8. They all work together but also seperate the seniors from the juniors at other times. I think there would be way less anxiety for DS at this school and also he would get the chance to work at his own level and not have the need to constantly conform.

On the downside. He is making some friends at his school and there are more children to choose from to learn to socialise with. Also the transition from a large primary to a large high school would not be so great.

WWYD?

Any thoughts greatly appreciated! If I don't reply right away it is only due to time difference.

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peanutbuttercup · 17/05/2012 02:32

sorry it's not a great post. i really am undecided even thought it probably seems like I'm skewed towards the smaller school. i do think the socialisation part is really important and also the bigger school getting him more ready for the "real world". But, I also think if there's any chance of him ever coming off his meds it won't be at the larger school.

How important do you think it is to try to cope without meds vs how important is it to have a better quality of life with meds????

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IndigoBell · 17/05/2012 06:50

If he moved to the small school, would he have other opportunities, like scouts, to socialise with more kids?

I'd be very tempted by the small school. But would prioritise his hobbies around socialising.

High school is ages away, and you don't start to Y9, so I wouldn't factor that into my decision making at this stage.

tunafortea · 17/05/2012 07:48

I'd go for the small school.
If it is only 7 mins away, can he not keep inviting his current friends to tea too?
Better than sitting endlessly in time out....
Like Indigo says, you can give him a wide social group through hobbies.
I am considering something similar and the 'small school' is 35m away from us.

peanutbuttercup · 17/05/2012 09:08

Thanks for replies, he does do cubs so we would keep up with that and I could keep arranging play dates for him - although I worry these would peter out over time. Food for thought - thanks

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