Thank you so much for replies, will have a look at that link.
It's not an independent school out of county, it's another specialist provision just under another local la, they are assessing our application and we will hear back within 5 weeks, but our la has already said no to funding, so even if they accept we still have to go to tribunal. It is just so stressful, I can never get through to IPSec, our parent partnership officer is just terrible.
Right I'm going to call other local schools, take his statement and letter from other school, and hopefully get a similar response from them.
It feels personal with the senco at the council, we called her a liar, as she said she had confirmation local school was happy to take him, we asked for proof, she then said it was verbal communication, when we spoke to the school ourselves it was then they wrote to us confirming he was not suitable and it would be 'setting him up to fail' sending him there. So our relationship has completely broke down with la.