Been chasing LEA all week to find out what happened to our amendments, as there were a lot. Final statement deadline as supplied by them is Monday 21 May and they had agreed to issue a second proposed statement due to the number of amendments. (I called earlier this week to try and speak to our officer, she wasn't in, but the admin assistant said there is a clear note on our file that says 'second proposed statement to be issued'.)
Dh called them today, because I am in no fit state and was told that they don't have to meet the deadline because we have a lot of amendments and they will start looking at it next week.

We moved hell and high water to get our amends back to them within the 15 day deadline, as we were advised that if we missed our deadline it gave them carte blanche to miss all theirs from that point onwards. We got them in on 17 April, our deadline was 18th. She told dh today that they have only had a quick flick through and not done anything else with them as yet 'as there are so many amendments'. So they've had it for almost a month and not even read it properly.
When I spoke to her prior to submitting the amendments I told her we had had a meeting with the school SENCO to discuss the proposed statement and she was happy with our changes. Between that conversation and us submitting our amends we actually found a few more we wanted to make, but it was the Easter holiday by then and we couldn't reach either the statementing officer or the school, so ended up just submitting them without running them past the SENCO.
Today she asked dh to confirm that all our amends had been approved by the school. Am I right in thinking that we don't have to have our amendments approved by the school? The SA request was done by me, not the school and either way, we are entitled to have our say about what we want to change on the proposed statement without the school agreeing to/approving our changes beforehand. We did meet with them to discuss it just for courtesy really, we didn't have to. They get a copy and can make any changes they want to make and we can do the same - that's right isn't it?
Dh is wobbling now and saying we should take a copy of what we submitted into school and run through it with the SENCO. Personally, I have had enough of bending over backwards trying to keep on everyone's good side. All we really changed was to add up the number of hours 1:1 and quantify it, rather than leaving it wide open and add in that the 1:1 support should be supplied by someone trained and experienced in working with children with ASD, plus the usual removal of all the standard LEA 'weasel words'. I told the SENCO before Easter that it was my intention to try and specify and quantify as tightly as possible and she was happy with all the rest of our amendments.
After speaking to the SO today, dh is stressing that not taking a copy of what we submitted in to the SENCO will hold the whole process up as the LEA will approach the school to make sure they are happy to provide what we have stated. Now .... call me an idealist if you want, but aren't the LEA supposed to be telling the school what they have to provide here, rather than the school telling the LEA what they will provide. 