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Screaming ...stamping & slamming doors....

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Starxx · 11/05/2012 08:59

...all pretty normal behaviour for a teenager lol ...only my boy is 6 years old!!

Quick catch up....my boy is 6.5 yrs and has ADHD, is on Equasym XL 20mg daily (for about 6 months now) and has made real progress at school etc ... appetite finally seems to be coming back (yay) and we have melatonin for his sleeping now (about 3 weeks and its blooming brilliant)...... morning and evening though he is a nightmare!!

Anyway....Its sooo frustrating for him to just scream and scream and scream for no reason (well cos Ive said no to something or because I have taken something from him) but its ear peircing and very loud. He slams his bedroom door so hard we have cracks in the walls and he has broken the floorboards upstairs where he has stomped and stomped etc ...you get the picture

We just dont know what to do about it ...its difficult to ignore a 6 year old sitting on the toilet (where it echos) screaming his head off at 6.30am in the morning....

We've tried the usual reward charts for good behaviour, we've done sticker charts, balls in a box, ladder charts and check lists etc and we've had rules up in the house, we've walked away (he follows) etc but we are just so fed up of this behaviour we're tearing our hair out. We can deal with the hitting and the throwing of things and the refusal to do simple tasks etc but this is just so very different.

Anyway ...DH and I have been discussing setting up a system whereby each outburst (i.e. a stint of screaming or slamming of doors etc) earns him a point which we want to 'add' up to something i.e. 1 point = 1 minute less of TV time or something...anything really but how successful this will be we just dont know!

Its so exhausting when we've tried the stuff that the experts say we should be doing (we've done parenting courses) and its really taking its toll ...sometime I feel like I dont want to be a mum anymore (I know that sounds terrible doesnt it) but I dont like all the screaming and the slamming ....aaaaggghhh!!! Its put a huge strain on mine and DH's relationship too.

Had another screamy morning from him this morning, over something soo silly too and he was telling daddy to shut up quite a bit (DH's bugbear) but hey, at least it wasnt something more colourful eh!!

Anyone got any suggestions about how to handle it and of course get him to stop lol....pweeease!!!!

Star xx

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davidsotherhalf · 11/05/2012 09:24

been there.....tbh i joined in with the screaming n stomping lol....for some reason my ds thought i had lost the plot, but i kept joining in and he stopped, think the turning point was when he got down on the floor in the supermaket and screamed, and yes i joined him lol

yawningmonster · 11/05/2012 11:18

We actually have a system almost exactly like the one you and your dh talked about. Whatever our 'can't stand it anymore' behaviour of the moment is gets clearly spelled out on the board and he immediately earns a mark if the behaviour is displayed. Every mark is worth 10 mins tv!!! About a week ago we were at the stage that he was shouting at us every conversation we had. So on the board we have
SHOUTING
"I will use a talking voice with mum and dad"
If I shout
I will get a mark
If I get 4 marks I will lose tv for the day

Usually it takes 2 or so days of hell where he gets all the marks and loses tv and sees we are serious and we are 100 percent consistent. This time round he got up to 3 marks and then he managed to reign himself in and we have had zero shouting for the last 4 days!!!

I have found that we have to ring the changes and while this system seems to work for us for now it in all likelihood won't always work and we will be back to the drawing board once again.

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