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lexielexielexie · 10/05/2012 15:52

Ok, so where do I start?

My name's Lexie and I'm 28 years old. I've been married to my amazing husband for 7 years and we have a beautiful daughter Maddy who has just turned 5.

Maddy was born at a tiny 23 weeks and 5 days and weighed only 1lb 9oz, she was so small it was scary. Doctors told us there was less than a 10% chance she'd survive and almost definitely if she did need some very special care in future weeks. We spent the next few hours just gazing into her mesmerising eyes and hoping she'd stay strong!

After 9 long weeks hooked up to a life support machine, two resuscitations and another 6 weeks in the special care unit we were finally aloud to bring our daughter home.

Due to her premature entrance into the world, Maddy has severe special needs and the last 5 years of our lives have one giant learning curve. She has enormous seizures which often end in calling the emergency services as she is allergic to practically every medicine such as Buccal Midazolam, therefore we have to carry oxygen with us where ever we go. Maddy is also fed via a gastric feeding tube as she has never been able to feed or swallow orally.

Even though she faces endless trips to the hospital and a life that is one big question of when, she is such a happy cheeky little girl. She communicates via British Sign Language (when she wants to... she usually tries to pull the ignoring card with people!!!) she is so aware of the world around her and what's going on , and often likes to let people know she is there by shouting or squeeling.... and if she's decided she doesn't particularly like you, you better be quick on you're feet as she is fast.

At the end of last year we were surprised to find out that I was pregnant again with a little boy. It has been such a roller coaster ride of guilt, bad feelings and excitement; but more than any thing the anticipation of what life will be like once the new babies born.... If things went Maddy's way she'd have him sorting hula hoop packets out into flavour categories as soon as he's home. (This is her favourite autistic thing to do is to sort things into piles).

I'm sorry this is so long, and thank you if you've taken time to read through it all, I really do appreciate it! I can't wait to get to know some of you SEN parents and have a chat about life and the future; something which I know is a very precious thing.

Lexie x

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nothinginthefridge · 10/05/2012 16:03

Hi Lexie and welcome Smile

You little one sounds lovely. Love the sorting crisp packets game. Mine would join in, in a flash.

Triggles · 10/05/2012 16:29

Hello Lexie! Welcome to the board!

bigbluebus · 10/05/2012 16:35

Hi Lexie
Welcome and congratulations!
I'm mum to a DD who is now 17 but has severe disabilities. She is also tube fed and had severe seizures when she was younger (and did not respond to Diazepam or Midazolam), so we have been regulars with the 999 service in the past. Also have a younger DS, so know what it is like to cope with a newborn and a disabled DD - as do many on here!

I'm sure you will find lots of practical advice from the knowledgeable folk an here who have seen it all before - so just post if there is anything you need to know.

Ben10NeverAgain · 10/05/2012 16:42

Hi Lexie :)

alison222 · 10/05/2012 16:52

hello Smile

timeforawhine · 10/05/2012 16:58

Hello! Love your name by the way. I was considering calling my dd LexieSmile

There are loads of people on here who can share advice and experiences. Some real stars!

flowwithit · 10/05/2012 17:11

Hello Smile

starfish71 · 10/05/2012 17:15

Hi Lexie :)

DameHermione · 10/05/2012 17:19

Hello.
Amazing that Maddy survived being born so very very early.
Wine

Ineedalife · 10/05/2012 17:48

Wow lexie, your LO must be a real fighter, my sis has to carry oxygen for my niece too.

I think my Dd3 would like the hula hoop sorting too, but she would need to lick each one to check the flavour before she could sort it.LOLGrin.

Welcome to the boardSmile.

HolyCalamityJane · 10/05/2012 18:16

Welcome Lexie.Nice to meet you. This board is fantastic fullof lovely Mummies and the odd Daddy too.

lexielexielexie · 10/05/2012 19:13

Thank You ladies for making me so welcome, I've spent the last few hours reading over threads and posts and it's like a weight has been lifted off me knowing that you're all so wise and going through similar things..... but yet we're all human too :o

Thanks again!!!

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frizzcat · 10/05/2012 20:53

Read the title of this post and launched into Lionel Richies "hello". Hi Lexie welcome to SN board. This is the best support group ever and you can say what you like with no judgement attached. Your dd sounds like an amazing little trooper and no doubt ds will complete your little family. My ds is 7 HFA and I have a 14mth dd who has the house terrorised she's so cheeky and full of smiles - she's been the best therapy for ds whom she loves best and he adores her.

Triggles · 10/05/2012 21:08

Lexie thinks we're wise??? Grin Ooooh, she WILL fit in with us - she's obviously been hitting the Wine! Grin

lexielexielexie · 10/05/2012 21:47

ahaaa no Vino Wine !!! Just nice to be able to share my experiences and read all of your amazing journeys :)

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pinkorkid · 10/05/2012 22:00

Welcome,Lexie! Great to hear your dd is doing so well 5 years on.

coff33pot · 10/05/2012 22:08

Welcome aboard Lexie! Your dd sounds an amazing strong little character :)

zzzzz · 10/05/2012 22:11

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lexielexielexie · 11/05/2012 09:43

Perhaps we could have a dancing on the ceiling party in honour of Mr. Richie! I may have to dig out the album from the cupboard now! :)

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frizzcat · 11/05/2012 14:21

I'm a high maintenance sorta gal - can I have a theme tune to suit different occasions - for example when dealing with stupid professionals I want "like a bat out hell" going in the background. When I've had my hair done I'm thinking "she's like the wind" this will be the song on my iPod tomoz on the way back from the hairdressers when I act like something out of a patene advert and convince myself that "yes I always look this good"

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auntevil · 11/05/2012 19:46

Hello Lexie - looks like you've turned the SN thread into a night of Wine, music and hulahoop packet flavour sorting. Count me in! Grin

Ben10NeverAgain · 11/05/2012 19:50

You lot have been on the Wine early today Grin

slacklucy · 11/05/2012 20:20

Hi Lexie your little hula hoop sorting miracle baby sounds gorgeous. My ds2 was born at 28 wks & has mild CP, Autism & learning difficulties.
Our little SCBU babies are tough little cookies!

Iceflower · 11/05/2012 20:22

Hello and welcome Smile

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