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Is this term the worst for most of us??

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lisad123 · 04/05/2012 00:25

Had two texts from fellow Asd parents today saying how awful their week has been and tbh mine has been terrible.
This term is horrible for us and the idea of managing two transitions and applying for statements and renewing dla brings me out in a cold sweat.
So is this everyone else worst term too?

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insanityscratching · 04/05/2012 05:59

So far touch wood this term is going well for us.Ds won't be moving school/class/group come September since the Tribunal will keep him exactly where he is (independent specialist) until he's 19. One will leave his group of six and one will join but teacher and TA's will stay the same.
Dd is on school residential, I'm hating it but reports and photos show dd is having a ball. We've had her annual review which went well, I've chosen her teacher for next year and transition will begin when she gets back. School are great at managing transitions so come July she will be raring to say goodbye to her lovely teacher and say hello to her new one.
No DLA forms thank goodness.
Looking at what you've got going on though no wonder you're feeling the pressure I think most of us would be feeling the same tbh.

claw4 · 04/05/2012 07:36

Yep this term has been a bad one, ds has started quite extensive self injuries behaviours again.

siblingrivalry · 04/05/2012 07:41

Yeah, terrible term here, too.
DD is in Y6 so has to cope with SATS.

We are going to HE after this school year, so luckily don't have the secondary stresses, but DD is really anxious about leaving her school/friends;etc.

Everyone, keep your eye on the haven that is the summer holidays

Triggles · 04/05/2012 08:02

Yes! But then I feel like that every term ... "this one is so much worse"

Apparently I'm living in the moment

Ineedalife · 04/05/2012 08:37

Not for us, summer term is generally the best for Dd3. She has got to know her teacher and is looking forward to the hols and lots of camping which she loves.

Autumn term is horrific for us. I absolutely hate it. So far autumn term has been completely wasted every year.

I am going to put my foot down for a better transition this year. To be fair she was quite new at this school last sept so they didnt know what was coming.

I hope you all get through this term ok.

flowwithit · 04/05/2012 08:46

Agree same here I'm stressed now and Ds is v anxious everyday. I worry so much about him. I keep thinking should i change school or HE or just keep him off for couple of weeks with dr note? These thoughts go round and round my head so I'm not sleeping well either,it's so hard to know what's best.
School not offering support as we don't have our written dx report yet. Dd also seems to have loads on at the moment too.
Hope summer holidays comes round quickly.

UnChartered · 04/05/2012 09:05

DD is certainly more unsettled than she has been earlier in the year - she's only in reception but now they're all at statutory school age, i think they've stepped up a gear wrt formal school work.

i am dreading the summer break, it was her deterioration during this time last year that took us off to the GP...that is all history

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lisad123 · 04/05/2012 09:51

The middle term is always the best for us. The first term is spent settling in, getting to know dd1, realising that all the information the teacher before them was helpful and not just words. Middle term is fine as Xmas is out the way and no matter changes and then this term is spent sorting out transitions

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insanityscratching · 04/05/2012 09:52

zzzz that's same with ds I'm sure the dark and the cold contributes to ds's misery at that time tbh.

moosemama · 04/05/2012 10:29

Everyone has commented on how bad ds has been so far this term. It's always bad, as he starts counting down to transition from the start of the New Year and gets really panicky by about Easter and this year he literally idolises his teachers (who are wonderful) and is heartbroken at the thought of not being in their class next year.

On top of that he's already started a countdown to July 2013 when he'll be leaving the school to go to secondary. We have regular emotional meltdowns with much sobbing, wailing and heartbreak about this and have been for a few months now.

Unfortunately we made it worse by doing Legoland last weekend, which meant the week after the Easter break he was too over-excited to settle at school and this week he's been swinging between being really distracted and sobbing because Legoland is over for another year.

He is really hard work at home and being particularly picky and irritable with his siblings, which results in them crying a lot as well. My Mum commented yesterday that he's impossible to reach at the moment and his teacher has reached tearing her hair out point. (Poor woman came back from the Easter break so refreshed and she already looks worn out again.)

Can't see it improving either, as we have a very busy, disruptive month with one thing and another.

Mind you Autumn term is hell as well, especially the run up to Christmas. I think the middle term is probably the best for ds, similar to Lisa really.

bochead · 04/05/2012 10:47

we always have some sort of crisis in Feb - this year was the first I can remember where that hasn't happened & I'm still waiting for the shoe to drop as a result.

My sis though - this has always been her worst time of year. This year she's excelled herself, & with the numpties in adult services letting her pull the wool over their eyes as to her capabilities and shutting the family out of discussions I've got a nasty feeling it's gonna get really ugly and spoil DS's summer hols. I'm really finding it hard to hold onto my temper with adult SS at the mo - they've interfered enough to stop us being able to help her but not actually taken on the caring responsibilities themselves iykwim, leaving her at considerable risk.

We HAVE to go camping this year - no way DS will be able to cope with the Olympics hoo-ha which is right on top of us. My son and my sis love each other dearly but neither can handle the other's behavior when they themselves are feeling stressed. One melts down, which sets off the other. They also have totally different interests (7 year old boys and middle-aged spinsters tend not to have a lot in common to be fair lol!)

I just know I'm gonna be spread thinner than marmite and am trying to conserve my energy knowing this is the calm before the storm.

alison222 · 04/05/2012 11:43

Actually this term has - touch wood been very calm so far for us. Last term was worse as the children all found out which schools they were going to (secondaries) and that was all the talk for weeks as they came to terms with where they were all going and who with.
So far this term Ds has been away last week on PGL and is now quite happy about doing SATS as he is academic so he isn't stressed. Also he has now had most of the year with the current teacher so is settled.

I do dread the last few weeks though when leaving becomes a reality and he starts to worry about secondary in earnest

frizzcat · 04/05/2012 12:46

It's the winter term for us after Christmas - ds goes on a come down because plays aren't being practised, father Christmas has been and gone and all the Christmas songs and pressies are over. He picked up at Easter and touch wood been fine this term largely because they are going on a 3day trip in June - our jnrs is on a different site and so the infants take them on a school journey. So you can all look out for me on the board in June in a lunatic gibbering mess

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