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New here, need someone to hold my hand!!

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sparkout · 26/04/2012 15:52

I have always had concerns with his social and emotional skills/maturity and now we've been told he is poss aspergers or gifted with very immature social/emotional level. Even though I "knew" something was different about him I would put it down to me being a worrier and over seeing things but now it is real it feels a big shock

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madwomanintheattic · 26/04/2012 15:56

Replied on your other thread. Smile

Shock is absolutely completely normal btw. Be kind to yourself x

lisad123 · 26/04/2012 16:15

Hope your ok, here's a cuppa. Can you tell us more about him?

Ineedalife · 26/04/2012 16:17

Hi sparkout and welcome to the board.

There are some of us on here who knew for years that our children were somewhere on the autistic spectrum but even so when a proffesional tells you it still comes as a shock.

Remember he is still your lovely son.

Good luck and keep coming on hereSmile.

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sparkout · 26/04/2012 16:18

Thank you! He is 5 lamost 6, home educated as he was never "ready" to leave me and go to school. Makes me sound hugely over protective but he was so scared of other people and groups etc and so clingy I wanted him to grow in confidence before I sent him to school. He loves lego, trains etc and talking at people about all those things. He has very under developed social skills and emotionally is very immature. He is improving, helped along by a tolderant and very socially advanced toddler sister!

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Ben10NeverAgain · 26/04/2012 16:26

Hi Sparkout

Welcome! What are the next steps that they are taking now? Has he seen a paediatrician yet?

Good to hear that he is improving :)

Here's another cuppa Brew

starfish71 · 26/04/2012 16:32

Am sure you will find loads of good support on here, have found it really helpful and really helps to know you are not on your own. X

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sparkout · 26/04/2012 16:35

She has suggested going to the GP now for an asd assessment, or asc as she said its now called?! To try social stories for a few of the things he struggles with and maybe go with her report to local schools to see if they will offer any help/support. She seemed to suggest that they could let him go for a few sessions a week as a full day would be too much but I'm not sure how likely that will be as presumably he won't be that easy to deal with in a class of 30 other children although I guess he would up their sats results!!

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Ineedalife · 26/04/2012 16:41

He sounds lovely sparkout.

My Dd3 is seriously clingy too, in fact we regularly refer to her as "the limpet".

I would have loved to have home ed'ed her but i think she would have suffucated me by now.

On second attempt we found her a lovely primary school where she can be herself and although its not perfect all the time, she is happy there.

By the way my Dd3 is 9 and has a diagnosis of ASD, she is high functioning.

madwomanintheattic · 26/04/2012 16:41

If he needs 1-1 support to attend an educational setting, this can be provided (if you want him to attend an educational setting). You can read up about statutory assessment. A fair few children with sn flexi- school, so you can discuss this option with local senco's at the schools and get a flavour...

Did the ed psych do wechsler or wiat testing? Or are you expecting that to be done as part of the next phase? (ime sometimes the NHS focus is more on the asd than potential gifted ness etc, so you need to be sure you are getting the full picture, not least to prevent academic expectations to be lowered due to existence of sn)

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sparkout · 26/04/2012 16:43

I'm not sure what wechsler or wiat testing is??! Thank you for saying he sounds lovely, made me cry again!!

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madwomanintheattic · 26/04/2012 16:49

Just two different batteries of iq and academic tests that are often used to assess giftedness in school age children. All google able. If this is what the psych did, you should get a full written report. It's unlikely that's what it was if she didn't specify though. Maybe she cherry picked a couple of tests to give a quick snapshot?

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sparkout · 26/04/2012 18:05

She also asked him about things he liked and din't like and got him to draw them on a scale

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laura4jasmine · 26/04/2012 19:14

Hello, I'm pretty new to 'all this' too. I have 2dc with 'issues'. Ds2 has always had things going on with him since about 6mths, but of course everyone around me kept saying 'he will get there in his own time', oh how I hate that phrase! Once I got dx and 'names' for everything it suddenly felt 'real'. It was great in that we are now getting the support he needs, but hard to realise he may have a long hard road ahead.

Sounds like you are doing a good job being led by what your ds can cope with, not being pushed to go with someone elses idea of what he should do/want. I have a first cousin who was a genius but socially inept. His Mum was easily influenced and he was pushed in to MENSA and uni at a very young age. His social skills never matured and at that time no-one seemed really bothered, just excited by how gifted he was. He has had a very sad isolated life and I'm glad you have enough insight to be seeing you ds as a young child and that the social side of life is important. On the flip side, my younger brother is also gifted but my Mum turned down all pressure to move him on too fast. Her view was that he only had one childhood and he needed to make the most of it. He did go to a grammar school where he was slightly bored (not challenging enough) but, unlike our cousin, made a wide circle of friends and has had a happy life. Loads of luck.

coff33pot · 26/04/2012 21:34

Hi and welcome your DS sounds lovely :)

Shocks take a while to sink in so be kind to yourself. Someone will always be here to help you along the way x

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