Hi all, My son has been 'different' to his elder siblings, basically from day 1. He hates change, I cannot buy him a new coat cos they are all different to the one he likes. If I take a different route to school he gets very upset, if he sees class mates outside of school he gets agitated too, although he will sometimes interact with them at school. I am the only one in the family that can kiss, cuddle, dress, toilet, prepare food/drinks for him, but if he is at my mums or sisters he will ignore me. It is the same if he sees grandma/aunty at another house other than their own iyswim. He is very picky about food and has a limited diet. He will not poo in the toilet as this terrifies him. He still gets a nappy on for a poo, and still gets distressed. I cannot cut his hair, brush his hair, clean his teeth, cut finger or toe nails - the list is endless. He is obsessed with the hoover and adores the washing machine. He is 4btw. Head mistress says he is pigeon holing things. What does this mean? She asked if it was just bad temper but I feel he gets genuinely upset. He objects loudly, then crumbles and sobs uncontrollably. HV thinks all his problems are my doing, but when he shoved a TicTac up his nose, the Dr that tried (but failed) to examine him was exasparated and spat at me "This child has serious behaviour problems YOU need to sort out". I am at a loss here. All the doors I have knocked on have been slammed in my face and I am just about at the end of my tether. I feel somethings not right, but I dont know what. All advice would be greatly appreciated. Oh he also has a fixation with guns and has also killed one of our gerbils. He seemed to know what he'd done and realised that it was not just an accident. He came and said to me I just kill the gerbil. I was horrified. Just don't know what to do.