Am I depressed or simply a bit pissed off? Warning, massive moan included.....

[DameHermione]

or hormonal, tired, hurting, not coping or just whinging?

I don't know.

I do know that I am not happy.

DD2 is being a nightmare and I am fed up with her.

Today's beauty:

7am - alarm goes off
7.15 - I do my first 'DD, time to get up'
7.30 - my second 'It's 7.30, time to get up'
7.45 - 'It's 7.45, Get up.'
7.50 - DD1 goes off to school. As DD2 hasn't surfaced yet I assume she has decided not to go and as I am absolutely not up to a fight this morning I don't shout or argue and just stay downstairs pottering.
9.00 - DD calls down 'what time is it'.
Me '9am'
DD 'what the fuck, why didn't you tell me, I was going to go in, you stupid bitch, why didn't you say, I fucking hate you etc etc etc'

So it appears I am a complete failure and it s all my fault whether she goes in or not. I can't win.

I am tired. My back is playing up (again) and I'm not sleeping well. Work is a bit shit. Every time I put a few £s into my holiday fund something breaks, this week a bathroom leak.

In the last week DD has kicked in yet another door, broken her bed and her beloved iPod. She can be fine for months on end, then have a bad phase. this is a bad one.

This isn't so very different from any other week/month/year so why am I not coping today?

and that is my second self indulgent moan in a week.

sorry.

Does she have a mobile phone? If not, get her an alarm clock. Go heavy on the rewards for using it.

And stamp on the attitude and language if you think it would help! (sorry, don't know age/dx etc)

she has a phone (a bit broken from being thrown around) she has an alarm clock. She is 14 (aspergers) and perfectly capable of looking at a clock, which is why i am so bloody cross with her this morning.

rewards are difficult as she doesn't like anything. same as punishments.

and she just doesn't care.

and I do. which is why I am sitting here churning and miserable and she's all bloody fine and dandy.

What does she do in her free time? I'm not a parent but have years of experience writing reward plans. I'm sure we can crack it. You can do this

Suggestions...
Meal out once a week/month eg pizza hut, McDonalds. Also bowling/cinema.
Weekly magazine
Phone top ups
Gift vouchers
Tokens for computer/games console time or towards high value item/trip
Music lessons (make sure teacher is on board in case she doesn't earn it each week!)

Multi pack of makeup/hairbobbles from the pound shop, split into individual items, let her earn one at a time