How do you stop smearing?

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Shit Stained House

Our G aged 5 dxd HF ASD delayed expressive language.

I'm sick of it.

We thought we got over potty training years ago and now this. It can't be doing G any good being screamed at by his father while he is clearing it up.

How do you stop smearing?

I know. It's horrible. We went back to pop up vests to try and stop it. I also watch him like a hawk when I suspect that he's going to poo. It has worked fairly well. I have also shouted at my DH that calling DS4 every name under the sun, doesn't help and it's far better to just clean it up and say nothing. I always make sure that i have a nappy bag and wipes in living and play rooms. My DS isn't potty trained, but wears pull ups and is taken to the toilet frequently. He understands that he has to go to the loo, but we are nowhere near going for broke.

Why do you think he does it?

For my own DS, it was about the texture he liked, so giving him playdough seemed to make it better. Would that work?

The most challenging behaviour for me by far. My 11yo ds with severe autism still does this given half a chance. He is still in nappies, has no communication and little understanding. We bought special sleepsuits that he cant get into (KC Sleepsuits), have been using them for couple years now and they definetely work when he's alone in his bedroom etc.

Sleepsuits on backwards? Or worn normally at key times to distract from access to nappy. They are v trendy with adult students at the mo, regularly see people in tiggerish suits around our university town on a Sunday morning! My Aspie DS(7) has no such issues but puts on his 'snugglesuit' as soon as he gets home from school.

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I think he does it because his diet is soo bad (fussy eater) and has to help it out and it goes from there. We thought he may have an infection like thrush making his anus itch but doc has ruled that one out.

I think he may be sensitive to clothes that's why he is naked in the first place or hands constantly in his trousers.

I am a nervous wreck and can't relax in my own house for fear of what will happen next for example ripping down the curtain rail to blocking the toilet.

What infection could be making him itch in the first place? It's just not like him.

When DS2 was doing this, we had to buy sleepsuits that zip, and put them on him backwards, so he couldn't get to the nappy. If he'd have gotten through that, the next step was inside out and backwards, and after that I had planned on a quick stitch in the evening to literally SEW him into the sleepsuit (so that he couldn't undo the zip) that I could simply snip through in the morning.

you can tell that I spent a lot of time thinking about what to do next, can't you? I HATE cleaning up poo!!! And he literally painted his room and himself in it. eww

As far as itching. pinworms?? Check his bum at night with a flashlight and you can see them. It's pretty common in primary/infants school.

Sounds so hard for you guys, I can't imagine.
Have you tried baby fruit puree pouches like the Ella's Kitchen ones? They're bright and sweety looking packagingwise, might appeal? And Humzinger dried fruit bars. That's about the only fruit my dd will eat.

yes that's the problem he had worms and was treated twice for it. We think he might just be "in the habit" of having his hands down the back of his trousers now.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, must be awful. DS hasn't done this since he was a toddler and we only now occasionally have him touching his bum after he's pooed which is often more the case that he hasn't managed to wipe properly and him 'checking' himself afterwards.

However he does from time to time get a really itchy, sore, red anus and this drives him mad to point of him scratting and writhing about (it's not worms, which he has had in the past). We put a bit of Benpanthen on when it's like this, which really seems to help. He used to have a milk protein intolerance and although he's doing well with small amounts of dairy, too much seems to cause this sore bum problem.

Hi I really feel for you my son has terrible stiff, painful poop problems but he is 3 (massive language delays, yet to be dx) and has a poor diet. But last week I discovered that if I added red lentils to the foods he will eat he can go with no stiff poop or pain. Sometimes I blend them down so he cant see them. He also has 2 movicols in the morning I hide it in squash. Ive also excluded dairy from his diet for the last 3 days as I was convinced it was giving him constipation and stinging poos, the GP and paedatrician said it would not constipate him in fact it would cause dihorrea but Im giving it a go anyway and my little boys poops have been very easy for him to pass and the red sore bottom is rapidly disappearing. I guess if your child has constipation or a sore bottom he may be putting his hand to his bottom but I really dont know much about this subject, I just felt compelled to share my lentils tip with you and also the milk thing. I hope you find a solution to your problem it really does sound very hard take care X

Back opening sleepsuits might help stop the habit at night. Soft cotton/jersey materials would be less irritant on his skin. Good luck!