Please can you come and share what works for your child. We generally find that one thing will work for a while for ds and then it is back to the creative drawing board of coming up with something that he responds to. His behavior at the moment is dire (he is 7) and need some new techniques as am starting to really not enjoy being around him and I want to nip that feeling in the bud.
Thanks in advance btw I will list the top three that are an issue at the moment
- Not wanting to go anywhere but demanding to be entertained constantly if we stay in, moaning, stropping and tantrumming if we go out
- Getting right into his sisters face both in play and in anger (I am so so so sick of "DS take a step back, you are too close" a kazillion times a day (we have tried social stories, explanation, consequences, physically removing him or her you name it for this one and it is a persistent one that dd really finds hard to deal with (he is 7 and she is 2 and it is quite scary having a huge 7 year old constantly looming 2 millimetres from you)
- This is in no. 1. but it keeps coming and going as an issue and I do find it wearying...need for constant attention and entertainment (this needs to be on his terms btw so bizarre games that nobody but him understands which result in angry outbursts as we are all doing it wrong to spite him etc, etc. We do have a rule at the moment of quiet time where he needs to do all his talking in his head and not at me, he at the moment has a record of 7minutes 23 seconds but generally lasts about 4 minutes then is back to the constant talk, demand, attention cycle.
Disclaimer before I get stoned for bad mothering and having too high expectations, I actually do love him and try my best to give him what I think is fair attention and he has lots of lovely qualities it is just that at the moment things are clouded because the above behaviors are making our relationship less than pleasant for me, I want ideas that I can do to change it.