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DS and DD1's parents evening..... oh dear!!

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sparklymieow · 09/02/2006 21:19

well. went to dd1's class first and was told that the gap between her and her peers development is getting bigger, she is playing up big time, and isn't learning. Teacher said 'please will you read with her??!! I said 'i do' and she said that I hadn't written in the contact book, i said that the book was missing for weeks ( and she knew that) and I have been writing in the book recently. She then said that dd1 had told her that she didn't have to read and write because apparently I had told dd1 that she didn't have to learn because she can't do it..!!!!!!!???? that is a load of rubbish and I told the teacher that, I said that we are always telling dd1 that she has to listen and behave and learn... I can't believe that the teacher believed dd1 on that one...
She said that dd1 is getting on with her 1-2-1 and she mentioned that it was 45 minutes a day, at which I wrinkled my nose, and the teacher had a go at me about it, I just said 'look i know its not your fault or the schools, its the education dept, but 45 minutes a day isn't enough' god i can't stand that teacher.
ds' report was good and his teacher is very pleased with him. I read his work and was very impressed with one piece of writing he done on his alphasmart.

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Blossomhill · 09/02/2006 22:00

Doesn't make sense does it???

Anyway my msn is [email protected]

I am off to bed now but hope to catch you on msn tomorrow xx

sparklymieow · 09/02/2006 22:02

only 2% of children here will get a statement.

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MeerkatsUnite · 10/02/2006 07:11

Sparklymieow

I am so mad on behalf of your daughter becasuse she is being let down by the authorities . No two ways about it you need to contact IPSEA asap. Herts are well known to them for being difficult.

Your DD is being failed here by a system who is giving her 45 minutes a day so called support. My son had this in reception (before he got his statement)infact he got more than that and such is worse than useless. Your DD is getting just over 2 hours a week. With this in place she will continue to get further and further behind.

Only 2% of all children will get a statement - well if that is not discriminatory I do not know what the hell is. They cannot turn you down on grounds of expense or use discriminatory criteria like blanket policies of refusal. This is illegal.

LEA's cannot turn a statutory duty into a discertionary one.

Get IPSEA on side NOW. You have been fobbed off big time and the one who ultimately is failed is your DD. To my mind no statement = no support.

I also live in a LEA who IPSEA say is one of the worst they've come across but I have a statement finally for my son. Do not give up, they are counting on you to do so.

getbakainyourjimjams · 10/02/2006 08:44

The 2% thing is bollocks- when statements were introduced it was estimated that approx 2% of children would need them, not that only 2% are allowed them.

Do you have parent partnership near you (I thinkevery LEA has to have one) they should be able to help. Aslo IPSEA.

getbakainyourjimjams · 10/02/2006 08:44

Anyway point being if the LEA are syaing they will only statement 2% of children they are acting illegaly and it might be worth pointing that out to them.

FioFio · 10/02/2006 08:50

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MeerkatsUnite · 10/02/2006 08:52

Sparklymieow

And if the LEA have the nerve to refuse you again go to tribunal!. Don't back down!!!. Actually some LEA's count on parents to back down.

IPSEA will back you fully here. Call them today.

sparklymieow · 10/02/2006 09:53

went to the senco and he said we have the EPF run for a few months because the support worker is only been there 2 weeks with dd1, and then I can go for the statement again. He said that she does get extra support that the school are paying for, so she actually gets about 2 hours a day support, which still isn't enough. I said to him that I would like to hear the postive things sometimes, not just the negative.

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ProfessorG · 10/02/2006 10:03

I don't mean to be controversial here and i do agree that the teacher's behaviour towards you is pretty awful - but I suspect you will get further if he/she is "onside" as it were and if it were me i would arrange another discussion to try to build a better working relationship. Hope this doesn't offend you, I don't mean that it is your fault, just that it might help if you went the extra mile?

sparklymieow · 10/02/2006 10:07

I do try with the teacher, I have had some good meetings with her, but i think she sees me as a little girl, I'm 27 but look a lot younger, and she taught my DS and he is 8. I think she forgets that I am an adult with 3 children, 2 who are disabled and I can take the negative feedback as much as the postive, but would like to hear the postive once in a while

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ProfessorG · 10/02/2006 10:44

Sorry didn't mean to state the obvious

sparklymieow · 10/02/2006 13:15

btw no offenced at all

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ProfessorG · 10/02/2006 13:28
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