My dd attends a CM and with her there is a boy who dd gets on very very well with and he is a lovely and funny little boy, he is on the autistic spectrum and is 3 years older than dd she is 6 and he is 9, and they have a great conection. however they tend to get each other very excitable and become very physical with each other, more so him than dd he will over power her physically and tickle her on the floor very roughly, I have raised this with the CM once when I was there at pick up time and he restled dd to the floor and was tickling her but he inadvertently put his hand right up dds bottom crease, I do feel with out truely realising this was not really appropriate. The cm did not really challenge him on this and it was me who encouraged them to get up and stop. I spoke with cm about this on the next visit and she said she had spoken to him about it after I had left. I was quite happy with that and understood it was probably best to be a converstaion done sensitivly with him.
DD has come home a few occassions recently saying he does this alot and he hurts her but because he is tickiling her she getts laughy and panicky at the same time and so cant really tell him to stop, but allough she laughs she does not like it. I can understand this my self, being slightly phobic about being tickled. Anyaway she says the CM does not really stop this as she proably assumes they are both playing, but he is much bigger than her.
Today she said he was sitting on her chest and on his bottom was jumping up and down and cm did not get him off untill dd cryed, but cm didnt hand this over to me. It struck as me as very dangerous for him to be doing this on her chest and shocked cm did not stop this imediatly. DD also told me that he is "in trouble" for saying naughty words and being cheecky to cm so has some kind of chart going on.
Im looking for advice really as how to approach cm about this as I dont want to impact too much on him if he is already having a hard time, but would have thought It would just be common sence for cm to not allow them to get physical like that. Is there any ideas of making this easier for him when I raise it with CM?