Thread about staffroom gossip - warning

[StarshitTerrorise]

That's it. Probably best avoided.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1451706-to-wonder-if-school-staff-rooms-involve-much-parent-bashing?pg=1

Seems to be more about 'hot dads' than PITA SEN bashing.

I dunno. There's a few posts on th first page that really shocked me. The one about parents of SN children not accepting their children won't get phd and then a few justifying poor provision for SN children for funding reasons, as if it is just accepted as th way it is.

I found it upsetting.

Well seeing as the head of dd's first school told dd's current school's that I was the most difficult and demanding parent she had ever had the misfortune to meet and I had caused untold worry and stress to dd's teacher (who was causing dd to self harm by refusing to meet her statement) who had been signed off with stress. Can pretty much guess that my name was mud in the staffroom and at the governor's meetings after I expressed my dismay at their ineffectual posturing. Couldn't say I give a shit tbh.

I know for certain my name was mentioned more than a few times in the staffroom of Dd3's old school becasue one of the TA's told me!!.

I used to feel sick at the thought of walking down the path in the end, I was soo worried about Dd3 and knew my concerns weren't being taken seriously.

TBH, I would just avoid AIBU starshit if I were you. Leave them to get on with it, most of them are narrow minded fools anyway.

Oh - I bet my name was mentioned in the Staff Room more than once. And in the LA Director of Education's office and in the LA Legal Department office......

And I'm proud of it.

The one about parents of SN children not accepting their children won't get phd

Well, following the advice of eminent professor to keep him in education as long as we could, mine's on track for one - that'll show the buggers

Absolutely Wet! My lovely 12yr old Aspie is apparently being earmarked to do IB in 6th Form! Jeez. He's only in year 7!! Proud beyond words that he's doing well. Just need to work on the social side and the writing.....

Great news Sally. We need to show them that not all SN kids are the 'write-offs' that some teachers see them as.

Or, as Connexions put it to DS himself when giving career advice "Would you like to do woodwork?"

[Grrr]

My name will be mud tomorrow if the Senco does have a word with one of DD1s teachers.

I've wanted to complain all year, DD finally agreed when she had a massive moan about her written work in front of the entire class.

DDs dyslexic, of course her book's a mess. If you were trying to write good14 year old's answers but have to take 3 attempts at words because your spelling age is 9 your book would be a mess.

And I know this is a very minor rant compared with many of your battles, but it still makes me

Star

Very proud of you for your input to that staff room thread. You presented a very compelling argument. I'd just have written 'I hate teachers' (except for FallenThingy) but you put it a lot more persuavisely

the head of my sons 1st junior school put a note on his school record says Beware of the parent, i only found out when we moved schools and saw it.

I am writing up my second PhD and remembering how much I loathed it first time round. I am very pleased ds1 is going to spend his life surfing and not having to go anywhere near a PhD - wish I could. Because yes when my 13 year old can't talk of course I worry about PhD's. FFS

I have the emails recording what was said about me behind my back - school running off to cry to the LA.

Don't raise these things with me obviously because it is so much harder to LIE face to face!

This is an 'outstanding school' with a 'National Leader of Education' as a head WHINGING that the WHOLE SCHOOL feels stressed (all 238 pupils and all the staff) by me - oh and 'this child'. Nice touch.

The whole thing is laughable.

I have been the biggest advocate for public sector workers over the years but I have to say my experience in the SEN world has turned me right off this whinging bunch of losers - health care staff, teacher, LA workers.

They don't do their job properly, can't stand being challenged or held to account and run of crying to 'mummy' to stop the 'nasty lady' when they get caught out.

Bunch of ***!

That's happening to me currently. LA are speculating and spreading rumours to the extent it is an implied 'truth' for tribunal.

I have just had to point out 2 things to the tribunal.

1. The lies/rumours have no evidence base whereas the facts that I have presented do Inc paperwork.
2. if the LA were unsure of anything they have my phone number. Why not call and ask rather than whinge to the tribunal that they are unclear about things?

xxAlisonxx weused to get a lot of that over the phone "X is lovely, but watch out for Mum". We used to reckon it told us more about the previous Head than the parent and start with an open mind.

I've just been on that thread. Truly appalling examples of how parents have been treated.

But now I'm also wondering about who gets told what about a child with SEN.

I trust the teachers at DS's school (thank heavens) but if the governors, who are also parents are told stuff the blab factor increases about a hunderedfold.

Agree Lionheart the blab factor does increase so much so I caught one out making opinions and judgements about my son to her mates. They forget it comes back to you indirectly

Started on first name terms initially now its Mrs so oh yes they talk

What did you say to them, coff33pot?

I emailed the Head Lion rather than spoke as if it was ignored I would have written to governors next step. It was a TA. Decided to comment that ds was difficult, hard to handle and generally a right pain in the ass. Said that mother is hiding behind the fact that her son is autistic rather than admit she cant handle him

This was the second time though and I wish I acted on the first. And she was the only TA ds didnt get on with.

It was a break in confidentiality protocol. The TA no longer goes anywhere near DS. Thankfully the HT was understanding and disaproved and warnings given.

Frankly having to repeat our experiences with schools this morning to a new CDC team this morning I now WANT any future teachers to put right on the front of DS's file:-

BEWARE THIS MUM BITES!

(Shocking for a trained teacher who is herself the child of an SEN teacher but it's how I feel. I can't believe the crap a kid aged 4-6 had to deal with & am determined that he never will again)

Good to know the HT suppported you, coff33pot. More than a little exasperating. There is another thread now about things you wished you'd known about primary school this time round. Again, parents of children with SEN describing truly appalling and ongoing mistreatment.

The problem is that they are just public servants.

Whereas, as a civil servant, I am a far superior breed, as I hold a Commission in Her Majesty's Civil Service - dontcha know