WWYD? force DD to do an entire project tomorrow or not?

[DameHermione]

It's an 'extended learning task'. no idea how long she has had to do it. I don't actually think she's been to a history lesson for a term or so anyway.

It is due in on monday. she hasn't started it and was heading for a tizzy over it yesterday when i got in from work.

i am off today but we were going to the cinema and out and about and having a nice day. i'm working tomorrow afternoon but could force her to do some tomorrow morning.

so the options

a. do it myself

b. ignore it and see if she does some or all of it on her own

c. Force her to do it, coach her, dictate and help.

d. tell her not to.

options b and c will end in tears and stress and orriblness. option a is pointless.

in a normal life i could just leave her to it but knowing DD this will also end in a massive tizz. she's left it to the last minute because as usual she can't face doing it and screwing it up, or not being good enough. I know what she does on her own will never be good enough (for her) and she is likely to do some work, get stressed and then rip it up, leaving her really sad and stressed that she isn't good enough.

WWYD?

c. Force her to do it

SN is no 'excuse' for not attempting to do the assignment.

Time management / self-organisation is something that many have real diffuculties with. I've always monitored DS very closely to understand what he has to do by which deadlines and hassle remind him to do it. You may have to adopt that approach in future.

it's not an excuse. and had i known about it a few weeks ago i would have mad her do it bit by bit. but having 24 hours to do 3 months work in is just going to end badly.

i might get her to start, do as much as poss and then ask teacher for an extension.

Do some now, go to cinema for a break, do some when back.
Similar tomorrow.

It won't all get done probably, but at least she will have made some effort and started it.

sigh sob

oh dear, definitely dont do it for her!!

Small chunks (with help if needed) interspersed with breaks to do something else that is "nice" - even if just a drink and biscuit to help things along

you cant do it for her as she will rely on you as a get out claus for doing homework.

you cant let her not do it as she has got to learn to do what is required of her now and in the future.

you have to force her to do it even if she doesnt want to. As long as she has done some of it then that is better than nothing at all.

Is there any way you can condense it? Incorporate more drawings, photos, internet excerpts printed and stuck on to show research in amongst her own views? I am not sure what the homework is but if there is a middle, beginning and end maybe she will feel better that she completed it rather than half done.

Good luck its a tough one :)

You need better communication between yourself and school, if they set a project like this they could email you with the details, the deadlines and a checklist of what needs to be in the project. School did this for my DS and it worked very well.

For today? I'd support her in producing something, but ask for a meeting with the school so that you can work out better ways of supporting her between you in the future.

Can you email the teacher/her form tutor and explain that you have only just found out about the homework but will be ensuring she completes it within, I don't know, a fortnight? I assume they know her particular SNs.

What are the bits that she has to do? Break it up into manageable chunks.
Say for example she was doing a project on The Tudors. I would do the following:-
A. Write a brief overview of their reign
B. Henry Tudor m. Elizabeth of York War of the roses etc.
C. What Henry VIII was famous for. 6 wives, dissolution of monasteries, setting up church of England, Mary Rose, Catholic Church outlawed
D. Edward VI
E. Lady Jane Grey
F. Mary Tudor m. Philip of Spain, Protestants persecuted
G. Elizabeth I - Virgin Queen, age of discovery and exploration, Walter Raleigh, Francis Drake, William Shakespeare etc. Architecture, houses, globe theatre

Do lots of pictures and then write/type small paragraphs under each picture. Put them all onto a sheet of Coloured A3 paper.

I have found thus by far the mist successful way where my DS1 AS is concerned. The writing may be scarce, but no one can deny the comprehensive content!

i'm leaving it for today. it isn't going to happen at all. she's in pre-school-going-back-windup. but she gets to leave it today on the understanding that tomorrow it gets done.

I will ask for things like this to be sent to me when she gets given them. that's a good idea.