yes fallen i love champers....im currently on the pinot grigio...
leonie - i arent disputing that living with someone with aspergers can be difficult, its only by virtue of the fact DH is so laid back he puts up with me, the boys in my family are all affected but so are the women - i do see it in myself and im so like DS in so many ways...
but, if i am flippant, or selfish unless, DH says something im rubbish at spotting it, much as DS is with me unless i throw a duck fit - the irony is that if i say something to hurt DS he is very quick to tell me yet he cant always see the correlation between how i feel hurt if he does or says something hurtful.
i do think you need the patience of a saint, but then again, i also think if you do the research you can be quite clear in what you are getting, but also how to deal with it providing you are not with someone who is just abusive as opposed to oblivious.
i think aspies can be quite clueless unless its pointed out in very bold print what the problem is! but i also think once pointed out, they do care, and will try. I cant always quite comprehend how my son, who is so clever, and so kind, can sometimes be such an arse....but, when i point out in no uncertain terms and give him a short while he always comes back with his tail between his legs and says sorry...
Ive been talking to him today given that i started this thread, he knows his own shortcomings and i think if he loved someone he would be prepared to work on them.