Trying for another baby - scared

[Sleepstarved]

it will happen again basically.
DD has a gross motor delay, as yet undiagnosed with the paeds thinking it might be hypermobility and/or nothing at all.
We want another baby but I am scared of having another child with difficulties.
I am so incredibly jealous of my NCT friends with their babies just doing stuff on time with no effort at all and I want that.
But also I think a sibling would be good for DD.
I feel bad for DD that I want a normal baby, because it makes it sound like she isn't good enough. But I really don't want to have two children who need extra help or have a child with more severe problems. (ATM, DD is at the mild end of any spectrum she might be on).
Those of you with an SN first baby, did you have another? How did you cope with the worry that it will happen again?

V, she is 13months.

I would agree with the poster who suggested waiting. Your daughter is still such a baby IYKWIM and I would wait and see how she gets on.

My older daughter has global developmental delay and we had all the tests etc but no cause was found. My younger daughter was born when my older daughter was 5. We had always wanted another child and it felt like the right time. I didn't have any tests when I was pregnant apart from scans and just hoped for the best. I did feel I could manage another child with special needs. My younger daughter has no additional needs and did complete our family.

Hi everyone,
Sorry i've only just got back to this i've been ill so not online. Thank you for your replies and sorry to sleepstarved for jumping on your thread. I hope things work out for you whatever you decide.
I thought the Dr might have been talking nonsense. I'm a member of our local branch of the NAS and just from meeting its members I can see its got to be genetic in some shape or form in at least some cases. Every member I have met who has two children (apart from 1 who's second child is a girl )both children have either confirmed or suspected ASD. I know there is no specific genetic test but that might just be because they havent yet discovered it.
My fear of having another child with ASD is because I also have health issues and struggle with just one child with additional needs. I had a horrific pregnanacy and just dont see how I could give my son all the support he needs if I had another child to think of as well. Though in saying that, the non sensible part of me would love to have another child, both to complete our family and as company for my son.