My Dd3 has a SpLD (not dyslexic), and despite an IQ of 137, intensive extra support at her private school in term time and throughout the holidays is functioning about 2.5yrs below her chronological age (10). She has also v challenging behaviour problems at home only (volatile, bullys siblings, aggressive, demanding, controlling etc) but is v quiet and timid at school and out of the home. My theory is that she is anxious and overwhelmed by school and lets all her frustration out at home. We are all exhausted on the one hand by her behaviour in the home as well as the patient (sometimes painful)hand holding to get through reading and homework every evening after a long day at work. Are we deluded that we can carry on with both of us working full time? Part-time is not an option in either of our careers - Do we need to re assess where one of us stays home to support her more effectively? Do other families cope with both parents working FT and effectively supporting child with SEN? Or are we just light-weights? We have 3 other children close in age and we both work FT soley to pay school fees as opposed to funding some luxury lifestyle or satisfying a career passion.