30 min melt down

[lisad123]

Dd2 is 4 and a half and due to start school in sept. She is at a wonderful nursery ATM, who are great with her and just "get it". Teacher told me that she had a 30 min silent meltdown today. Her meltdowns are normally silent unless you touch, move or talk to her and then it turns into a chair throwing, kicking and screaming meltdown.
Her nursery are good and today they left her to it until she was calm which is what we tend to do at home.

I'm starting to panic that her school aren't going to allow this to happen, and are going to insist on trying to deal with it iykwim.

What do your schools do? Are the school likely to carry on with this or are they likely to force the issue?

They will make a mistake and think they know best and try and talk her out of her meltdown no doubt and then experience the consequences to hopefully make them re-think and perhaps have a change of plan.

DS school has made this mistake on numerous occasions in his first year there. Resulting in him wielding a chair in an agressive manner because 3 teachers were homing in on him at the back of a cupboard. He did not hurt anyone or throw the chair but the aggression was not tolerated from them but could have been well avoided if they had let him be. Second time one got hurt as he spun his arm away from one teacher and so clouted the one behind who he couldnt see so not intentional. I had told them several times that if signs are not spotted that he is anxious or suddenly gone quiet and run off under a table or cupboard to leave him there to chill. he will work it out and come out when ready but they insist about conforming to the ways of the school. And it was always made worse because it was never just one teacher talking but they would have a couple more trying to coax and that just adds to confusion to him as he cant take in on persons voice on meltdown let alone two or three.

They are still slow on the uptake as they refuse to give him a quiet space but they now stop the talking and just stand close by.

Before she starts school I would write up a list of dos and dont dos that the nursery have followed with success and give it to the senco to pass on to all that will care for your DD. IF they dont take up the info then at least should an occasion arise to can mention that you forewarned them before she started and could they re think their stratagies :)