Silliest / funniest things people have said about your DC?..

[proudmum74]

I was at a 2 yr old NT birthday party this morning at a soft play area with DD (who has Down's). She is now crawling, but can't stand yet. One of the mum's,who I've never met before, spent about half an hour watching DD crawl around the play area before asking me, in a serious manner, if I've ever tried getting DD to walk! :)

I have to admit I openly laughed at her, as to be honest I thought she was joking, turns out she wasn't so I then felt obliged to explain that yes, we had been doing extensive physiotherapy with DD for the past year trying to get DD to stand, but thanks for her concern.

So what are the stupidest things people have asked?

"I wouldn't worry, she'll grow out of it when she starts school" (at the end of class 1)

DD1 born with missing hand/arm from just below the elbow, out shopping when she was around 6 months old, an older lady was cooing over her when she suddenly stopped and said "oh my she has lost her little hand" me being in that sorta mood responded by looking all round the pram saying "omg im sure she had it when we left home"

"thats a shame, he is such a good looking boy"...............Joe public
"he is such a happy little "thing" really".........................MIL

HT flabbergasted when given a consequence when ds went into meltdown as she used the term to explain the consequence as "in a nutshell DS" wondered why he refused the consequence and had a massive meltdown, as he was in school and NOT a nutshell! and having had various reports telling them he cannot understand raining cats and dogs etc came out with "he really has to learn to be compliant and understand english"

"Well shes so cute, guess thats why she gets away with so much" no that we be because she hasnt understood a thing you have just said.

"they are just so beutiful its such a shame!" [anger]"

"Those type have high IQs dont they?"

"Are they sure?" umm yes! idiots

"I didnt think girls could have autism"

He hasn't got ASD!

He doesn't qualify for ant help because he's just like a normal 3rd old and we can't tick the disabled box from our observations. - SS

oh missmaviscruet, I get the one about ds looking tired all the time too, 2 or 3 people say it to me everytime we go into town. I just wish they would comment on his lovely blonde hair or gorgeous blue eyes.

The hv who said, 'yes you can tell there is something wrong with him', when I explained what was going on with ds.

My uncle/nephew/next door neighbours second cousin/cat didn't start walking/talking etc etc until they were 3/4/5/28....and they are fine'

My friend when I tried to explain about the results of ds's videofluoroscopy (ie that his swallow is poor, he is aspirating food which is causing chest infections and the recommendation is for a gastrostomy tube) - 'but I've seen him eat, he eats really well...are they sure' (well, yes it is there on film and he does eat well apart from the fact that it takes so long for it to go down that bits go down into his airway....)

Oh I forgot one (although should probably try harder to):

'So you won't need to save up for university fees now you know he's a bit backwards.' - MIL's DH

Einstein didn't speak until he was 5,6,insert appropriate age!!
One morning she will just wake up&speak
She got that selective mutism
And the best of all which unbelievably is from my FIL,'I just don't understand why she can't speak it must be much harder to do all that signing'

Oh Chicken, I got those too BiL said (to MiL), why don't they teach him to speak instead of signing? AAAAAAAARRGHHHHHH!

had a lovely one yesterday. dropped him at ASD group (only there in hols) said to them 'his speech has come on so well, since you last saw him ', worker's response 'oh yes, that's PECs'
Considering neither pre-school, home or school use it I doubt that very much!!!

(What concerns me is that she may be telling other parents how well PECs works based on DS's improvements, PS I believe PECs is very useful, it just wasn't for DS)

I shouldn't laugh, but threekidsfourcats your response was fabulous, I wish I could think of responses like that whilst I'm out in public!

In past few weeks I can also add:

"I think it's great that you love your DD as much as any other parent loves their child" - parent at DD's nursery!!

I told her that as DD was clearly the most beautiful little girl in the world then I obviously loved her more.

"in my day they would have locked her up in a hospital when she was born and you wouldn't have been burdened by her" by a random old lady in the street

I can't write what I said to her...

"she's just lazy" Senco (now ex-senco) upon learning DD still can't walk

"at least you'll save a fortune on shoes"

"If you tried some discipline at home he would behave better at school." Ds's P1 teacher.

"It's because he's a boy". My mother.

And if I had a pound for every time I have been told "what he needs is a good smack" I would be a rich woman.

'It's because you live in London' - SIL

'Have you considered restricting TV time?' - SIL

'perhaps he acted badly in previous life' - SIL

She's into all things Steiner!

"Is your son drunk?"
"So if I SHOUT can he hear me?"

OMG at starlight's FIL!! And grr at lazy comments I get that all the time about DD. I now say, no, she has to try a million times harder than other children just to make herself understood with what communication she has , she is not lazy.

To me about ds, 'Oh well he gets it from you, you've always been socially inept.'

About ds, 'Oh well it's not too bad. He isn't as bad as so and so.'

The most unexpected and hard thing about realising that ds had SN was having to constantly justify myself and fight against so-called friends and family.

Oh and Ed Psych at last appointment. 'We can't assess him for asd as he wouldn't interact / engage with me at all.'

Yes that is asd!!

i took ds t the drs the other day because he keeps biting himself new habit, hes 3yrs.4m "hes going through the oral fixation stage"