ds' daily behaviour chart at school. Am I asking too much of the teachers?

[shoppingbagsundereyes]

Ds(nearly 6) has aspergers and lately we've been having lots of problems at school, particularly since the school withdrew his TA support due to lack of funding. We agreed at the last meeting at school that his teacher would let me know every day if he had managed to stay on 'green cloud' or had been moved down to yellow or red (red is considered a serious incident). The teacher made a tick sheet. The idea is that we can support the school in withdrawing privileges such as computer time if he hasn't behaved appropriately or reward him for a particularly good week.
This lasted for 3 days. Day 4 and 5 the sheet was empty. Monday - wednesday this week no sheet at all. This afternoon a sheet came home. Monday was green, Tuesday was red and today is green. I am furious, I have no idea what ds did to be put on red yesterday. He can't remember because it was yesterday and now there is no point in me taking away his computer time as it will detract from today's green day.
So am I asking too much for a teacher to tick a sheet every day? I don't know how else I can support their management of his behaviour. I have a prearranged meeting at school tomorrow and intend to rant a bit so need to know if I'm asking too much? (as in teachers are incredibly busy etc etc)

No you're not asking too much BUT why don't you post on th SN children board where there is a LOT more traffic.

Rather than "rant a bit" why don't you acknowledge that, yes, the teacher will be incredibly busy, so is there a way of making the form more informative (for you) but yet more manageable for them?

Don't be daft. No teacher is too busy to tick a box. In any case she should really be doing ABC charts for behaviour so that triggers and patterns can be identified.

I'm not being daft, thank you. Don't be so bloody rude. My point was that a tick actually gives you now useful information as to degrees of poor behaviour and that there might be a better system.
I'm currently managing some seriously challenging behaviour from a couple of children in my class and there are a number of systems we've tried previously that we've discontinued/amended/improved to better meet their/my/parents' needs.

It's just a tick. If the teacher has a better system, why isn't she implementing it?
To suggest that a 'tick' is too much for a busy teacher IS daft!

I'm quite shocked that your lad is struggling, as his TA support has been withdraw, and you are expecte to penalise him in his home life for behaviour at school. I agree that the tick is a bit useless, you need more context as to why your DS was on red, to help you figure out naughtiness from incidents due to his disability. Would have thought some sort of home school book would be more sensible. Or even, perish the thought, a more positive system, working towards a v modest reward (at my DS's school when they get to top of reward chart they get a wee stationery set like you would get from poundland!)

There have been times when I've probably neglected to tick a box - may be that the child was out for an intervention session, or working with a TA or the parallel class teacher, or I've been dealing with another incident at the end of a lesson with some of the other 29 children in the class. I may or may not have remembered to tick it later, or the other adult concerned might not have filled it in.
There are therefore many reasons why there might be gaps - but not as many as the OP reports - which indicates that this particular system might not be working. You therefore need to discuss together what might be better. I don't recommend steaming in "furious" as that won't help move things forward.

Shopping,

Can you write to the school to 'clarify' that they told you that although he is having problems they have removed his TA support due to lack of funding?

This will give you some 'evidence' to contribute to a statutory assessment if you need it later, but also might change their minds when they see it in writing.

Often children with disabilities have a home-school book that is written in every day so parents and teachers can be consistent. This is more work than a tick, but more useful.

Also, you are quite right about not being able to give your Ds a 'consequence' for behaviour the day before but do you think that honestly you 6yr old will be able to process a 'consequence' at the end if the school day, hours after the event?

Would it not be more appropriate for the behaviour to be dealt with the moment it happens?

Thanks all. I think we will stop giving consequences at home for school behaviour but will continue with the reward for 'good' behaviour. We have tried a home/ school book but the teacher doesn't check it or remember to write in it, hence my suggestion of a quicker tick sheet. We agreed yesterday that I would pop into the classroom every day to check the board myself. Is ridiculous that she can't be relied on to keep me informed but at least this way I am in control.
I found out yesterday school has no formal record of any of the behavioural incidents with ds. Have requested that they start recording so that should we go for a statutory assessment there will be proper evidence. Am shocked that the school is so useless- they reacted as if recording incidents was a revolutionary new idea.

I found my my daughter she respondend well to using the same visual aids at school and at home. I got some traffic light key rings and reward charts from a boke on facebook - this link- www.facebook.com/pages/PecSen-pecs-visual-aids-and-weighted-blankets/186971438024527 she became reponisve to them at home and i insisted school used them as she had the same hme and school they worked well. with her school surprisingly they noted a big improvement in her behavior, shouting and attitude towards others even tho she didnt have a problem there in the first place ;0)