DS is at a new school. He's been doing really well but the pace of integration has started increasing and he's been in the classroom more and more.
Schools do seem to measure their effectiveness by this so I have to tread carefully so as not to look like I am suggesting that this is not a good thing. However, DS seems to be having quite a strong reaction to it.
I was in school yesterday to meet the new S< and he ended up under the table he uses with his LSA. In fact, the LSA (who is an experienced teacher) actually came to get me to get him out.
When I picked him up at the end of the school day, the same thing had happened. The LSA thought he was being a bit silly. She asked me to speak to him about it.
This is not an easy thing as he doesn't want to talk about anything that upsets him. He tells me that this has happened before.
Anyway, because the LSA had asked me and because DS was saying he was going to go back under the table today, I have had a talk with him this morning and stayed in school for about an hour. He says he is being asked to do too many 'jobs' and he is finding the whole classroom routines etc tough. Unfortunately, every time his LSA said ' well you wanted to go into the classroom yesterday', he says 'you made me'. It feels like basic Aspie non-compliance and struggling with someone else's routine but also that he finds the classroom tough.
He just won't say these things at the time and so I do get dragged in.
School are very good but it is a difficult line to walk between helping him and accomodating problems and facilitating non-compliance. He does have to do things he doesn't like at school.
How do you cope with this? I did a sticker chart for him and offered him 'ticks for toys' and said I would come back a little earlier at the end of the day to see how he is getting on.
The services we have supporting him are USELESS - rubbish beyond belief. Ed Psych came in and did not even give any guidance. SLT didn't even seem interested in this sort of stuff. Who would think could help on this and set up proper support? I would pay.