Any thoughts?

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Hi, we are having play therapy and it is early days but i dont feel this is the right direction. I just dont understand what is going on. The psychologist thinks its behavioural with my daughter.

She is like two people, so lovely, kind,caring and considerate but then when she doesnt get her own way or wants something or something happens not in the order or way she would like we have horrific meltdowns.
She shouts,screams,hits me goes on and on and on about whatever it is...

Other things we notice, she seems to shout all the time to talk. She often says things are too noisy, she has low attention span and gets bored quickly, i think is quite intelligent (they also said this) cant seem to control her emotions and is senstive.

Any other ideas? Thanks!

When you say the psychologist thinks it's behavioural, does this mean s/he has considered and rejected particular possible causes for the behaviour? Or perhaps s/he is suggesting not enough evidence yet for a firm diagnosis?

The behaviours you describe could be put down to a volatile temperament, anxiety, toddler tantrums but could also be flags for a number of sn conditions.

eg "something happens not in the order or way she would like" ...rigidity of thought associated with asd

"she seems to shout all the time to talk, says things too noisy"... auditory processing disorder,

"low attention span".. adhd

In isolation they wouldn't meet the criteria for a firm diagnosis. Can you ask the psychologist to explain more fully what she means by behavioural? Have you looked up eg criteria for asd or adhd to see if you recognise or could rule out any of the other diagnostic signs?

I will ask when I see them friday as i want more information myself.
The thread about meltdowns struck a chord. The poster who said meltdown because dd asked for a pancake, a pancake was put on her plate and then she had a meltdown even though asked for it. I asked my daughter would she like chicken stew or a sandwich she said stew i gave it her and she had a fit!

I just dont know what is going on but feel exhausted and like i am fighting a battle for help all the time.

p.s but then i can identify some 'behaviour' issues for example she wants constant attention, when i cant give it to her she plays up, hangs off my legs, shouts, throws things...

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By loud she is always shouting instead of talking, she is extreme so happy squeals and screams sooo loud and sad screams and cries so loud! I feel like i am saying dont shout all the time ;(

She gets so excitable and hyper or so upset and angry

It often helps to get the most out of meetings if you prepare beforehand by writing out a list of behaviours that concern you especially if you are able to place them in context. Are there any recognisable triggers such as tiredness, hunger, overstimulation or do the outbursts appear random? Also you don't say how old your dd is but presuming she is in school or nursery have staff there flagged up any concerns about her behaviour so you can see if there are any patterns?

Totally random. She is 4 soon, not at school as yet so no flagging. I have prepared and told them lots but whenever we go she displays none of this. Def not tiredness,hunger etc either...