Outbursts are more physical as well as verbal

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DS(7) has been getting more physical with his anger. Running off, slamming doors (or trying - they have the sponge cap to prevent slamming) throwing whatever is in his hand on the floor etc

On top of this, on Sunday when we wanted to pop out, he outright refused and started crying, rocking and screaming when we told him it was tough (after we tried motivating).

Any ideas/advice? I know we have to keep to the discipline re anger but any advice on how to control it or what we can use so that he doesn't throw things or kick/punch out?

What should we do about the refusal to go out? I don't want to give in to that each time or its likely to get worse but Sunday was so unexpected.

I'm worried this is all going to get a lot worse as he gets older if we don't work out ways to control it all now

TIA

I have always found it better if DS2 has lots of warning about any trip out, especially one he's not to likely to enjoy. Anything 'sprung' on him causes all sorts of problems. He's better with a warning and a countdown, and perhaps given a couple of options, (both of which are acceptable to me) so he feels slightly in control. Not perfect, by any means, still strops, but less badly.

Thanks Ellen, I suppose we do usually give them both some warning but this was a last minute decision not that it happened

I just need to work out the increase in his reactions.