Feel like I'm not helping dd - need advice

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OK so dd is 3.10. She had moderate hearing loss from newborn (now fixed) and speech delay because of it. When she was assessed this time last year they said it wasnt bad enough for further SALT.

Since her hearing has been treated she has improved in that she is now attempting words and sentences but she is still very indistinct and cant pronounce some sounds at all. The LA refuse to engage with us - should I push them harder or should I go private?

dd starts school in September and cannot count to 10 reliably or do her phonics reliably - she cant remember sequences or nursery rhymes either.

She potty trained very early and can put all of her clothes and shoes on etc and is exceptionally physical.

What should I do - push for further assessment and SALT or just leave it - my friends are beginning to insinuate that I should be doing something.

Does she have any other issues or is it just the speech delay you are concerned about? My DD who is 5 also had very delayed speech due to significant glue ear she only had about 40-50 words at 3 before she had vents put in and then her speech improved greatly she now has above average vocab for her age. The speech therapy we got was fairly basic the private ed psych we saw was fairly confident that Dd's speech would improve but that she would be playing catch up with her peers. She still struggles s bit socially with her peers.

I dont know if she has any other issues tbh - it seems to me sometimes that she does - she gets very angry and only really relates to other people/dc in a physical way - she doesnt like to follow instructions and is a complete bolter - ie she wont rememebr things you have told her to do seconds before. But then how much of that is just being 3/4?

Her consultant said it would take 'years' for her speech to catch up but we havent even been given any exercises to do with her to help. I feel like I'm floundering about.

She recently started ballet and it is obvious that she is very different to the other girls in the group - she just likes to do her own thing. She cant stop herself going at full speed round the room for example.

How did you find your private ed psych?

My DH is a solicitor and we used one his firm uses to help with tribunals/ statements etc. He was able to offer a potential DX which has now been confirmed of ADHD and dyspraxia. Have you tried contacting an organisation called ICAN they have great resources for speech therapy.

Yes have just had a look there - am going to do something definately - it feels like the hearing all over again - everyone else said it was fine but it was clear to me that it wasnt.

I feel like I have just been sticking my head in the sand.

Thanks for your help.

btw we are just entering the struggling with peers territory - dd came home in tears from preschool the other day saying that no-one was her friend and they were calling her stupid because she couldnt talk properly. Gah and indeed grr.

Before she hadnt noticed that she was different.

At least she is aware of the lack of peer interaction that may sound bizarre but my DD wouldn't be worried or bothered in the slightest which is more troubling. Our DD's speech only really took off at around 4 and a half and now she puts us all to shame with her extensive vocab. Just remember they have not been able to hear for the first few years of life so they are only starting now. I wish you every bit of luck