excluded from class

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Ok maybe I was being optimistic/stupid but I enrolled DS (5 no dx) in taekwondo classes at school. After 1st one today teacher told me he was so disruptive he can try 1 more class & if not well behaved (slim to no chance) will have to be excluded. This is the 2nd time he's been asked to leave a physical activity class for good & today DH made me feel like I was deluded to keep putting him in the classes . Am I really just some awful mum who selfishly puts her SN kid in a class where he just annoys the others & gets no benefit? Should I just stick to things I know he can do/will enjoy & not risk disappointing him & myself? I'm inclined to keep trying but do I risk giving him an early complex about not being able to do what his peers enjoy?

just a thought 5 is very young for a child to be joining things. I remeber my ds(nt) at that age and I don't think he would have behaved either. I know I don't know your ds's "problems" but do you think it might be better to wait till he is a bit older. I found beavers very good as although there were lots of rules and stuff there was also lots of fun. This is just a thought and I have a feeling people will say I am wrong!

Honestly? I get the impression from you that you know he won't behave, and if I were you I wouldn't set him up for a fall.

Sod the other kids, and sod the teacher, if he gets told he can't go back because of the way he is, it might really hurt his feelings. Next time he wants to do something you know he won't manage, I would tell him a white lie about how he isn't old enough or it's too expensive.

colditz, of course I know there's a big chance he won't behave but at swimming he is good as gold because he loves it. I'm torn between not letting him try new things & setting him up for disappointment, but yes I think that maybe I am expecting too much from a 5 year old SN. Maybe don't want to admit it to myself...