ds3

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The new thread.

So how long do I give him then? 18 months?

Baka - sorry I missed the "old" one - what is it you are worried about specifically? (I guess he isn't pointing yet?)

Oh love. I don't know. What are un-autistic things about DS3?

Oh sweetie, what's up?

Do you want sympathy or practical responses?

Am no good at the first, though you have it. Awkward cyber-hugs.

My DS1 has probable AS (so v different situation). A friend asked recently if I was worried about DS2 (couple of weeks older than your DS3). I said no, as nothing would be done yet. That said, I am aware that his eye contact is poor, and he's strongly outward / thing (rather than me / people) focused. Hadn't thought about pointing, though he doesn't (are they really supposed to by now?).

Even if I added 'worry about DS2' to my list of things to do, by the time it got to the top it would be either (a) much more obvious, or (b) resolved.

Can you ask one of your better professionals?

baka what's up. I didn't see your old DS3 thread either, sorry.

I would say 18 months but thinking back to when dd was younger the signs of a communication disorder were there much earlier.

Have you spoken to anyone about any concerns you may have?

Keep a note of positives and any concerns and update every six weeks or so. Helpful if you do end up in the system again.

Jimjams, do you mind me asking if there are any signs that you've picked up on that you find a concern? I can't seem to find the other thread.

FWIW I've found it a lot harder to be sure in my own mind that my DS3 isn't on the spectrum than I was with DS2, who is almost pathologically non-autistic.

Could it be similar i.e. is your DS3 also a great contrast with your DS2?

FioFio / Jimjams: I know that came out all wrong. I should have just shut up. Sorry.

TBH we think he sends out mixed messages. He's quite sociable and loves children, imitates like billy-o, mucks in, has zero sensory issues, is fiercely independent.

Doesn't point (grr), but does reach for things. Eye contact is a bit ropey (so is ds2's-, ds1's otoh can be briliant).

Very different personality than the other 2. TBH I'm not all that worried, just wanted to stop hijacking. At the moment I'm happy keeping en eye (and keeping awaty from babies- saw dh's very seet nephew recently- a few months older and I turned into a fruit cake). Just curious as to how long it should be left.....

I'd love to know how many babies with no other signs simply don't point. I know it's the gold standard but I have no memory of either of mine pointing. Ds certainly used to use my hand to point to things in books sometimes, but I really don't remember that shared attention thing. Obviously I wasn't looking out for it though, since I lived in blissful ignorance. The other stuff sounds absolutely normal, doesn't it?

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Well that's true tamum, although it is the most important sign, and he is high risk. Having said that I think it is incredibly difficult to tell at this age. I was not happy at all about ds2 at 12 months, and he is fine. I just find ds3 so hard to work out as he is so different. He's just gone off to sleep and is in my lap snuggling up. I'm a bit over alert I think.

ha ha I do sing wind the bobbin up! I'm not sure GB is taking referrals at the moment.....

I don't think Ds1 (very NT) pointed particularly early (after 1y) and it wasn't a thing he was doing all the time. Some children seem to go round with a finger stuck out permanently in front of them, but I think it is less obvious with others. Nor did he wave, clap etc until well after 1. Much more interested in talking. I'm sure there's a lot of variation.

True about the imitating, ds1 despite being taught still can't really, and if someone says "bye" he starts waving automatically (without having to wait for them to wave iyswim).