I'm a childminder. One of the children I care for has a statement and has full time 1-1 support at his preschool.
When he first came to us, his daycare nursery had politely requested his removal due to his behaviour (biting, head butting, hitting, among other things). This has improved so much since then, although he does sometimes need to be reminded to take care or calm down.
I have noticed that, when the other children have had birthday parties, he is the only one not invited :( I know because I have to distribute the invitations.
What I'd like to do is to have a birthday party myself and invite the minded children so that he gets to experience at least one party, and the parents can see that he won't throw the birthday cake, dribble in the jelly and ice-cream, attack the birthday child, and all the other horror situations they may be imagining :)
What I don't want to do is to patronise or cause offence and I'm well aware that I'm not looking at this from his parents' point of view.
Please can you tell me honestly what you think? It's months until his own birthday so no risk of them thinking it's his birthday we're celebrating. Would you be upset if someone did this for your child, or feel that I was being interfering?