I feel like crying,but perhaps the school will take notice now!

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DS is really struggling at school.He is about 3 yrs behind his peers.He struggles with speech and communication too.
The EP went in to see DS on wednesday and is going in again,but don't know when yet.I have had no feedback yet,but think thats because EP want to do more assessments.
For awhile now i have been saying something needs to be done NOW.I have all ways worried that other children will notice DS is 'different' and make fun of him.He has said afew times that so and so has laughed at him or been nasty ect.
Well today another boy was making fun of DS,so DS hit him.I have gone from being angry with him,to feeling sad.I know he can't hit others,and he knows i'm not happy with him.
But perhaps the school will take more notice of me now,or maybe not.

What has school said about the incident so far?

Make a diary log of school events yourself for future reference.

Bless him he really was pushed to far x

Sending hugs. It's really hard when things like this happen.

Thanks both.
His teacher came over to me at home time,to tell me.I don't think she was going to tell me,but she could see i was wondering why DS was upset.It had only happened afew mins before the bell.
She said that the other boy had said something to DS,and he just hit him.She said not to worry because DS had never done this sort of thing before.
DS has come out of school every day upset this week.
The school are doing food dudes this week, and for the next 2 weeks.Every child has to try one fruit and one veg each day.If they eat each one they get a prize,pencil case,fridge magnet ect.
Yesterday was tomatoes and apple,today was a carrot and raisins.DS doesn't like apple or raisins,so wouldn't eat them.So he didn't get a prize.
Then on top of that this other boy was making fun of him.I think it just got to much for him.
But i know the other mum is probably angry her DS got hit.

Thanks imogen.
Up untill now, DS has all ways sat quietly, struggling to do any of the work.
Hopefully this is the turning point.

Yes good idea about the diary.Thanks

I think I'd try and have a word with the teacher, explain that ds is upset about the food tasting and ask if she could possibly make sure there is one day when he will be able to eat the fruit and the veg. If he gets a prize at least once it will encourage him to try more things on another day (at least that's what I'd say, I'd be thinking that at least ds wouldn't feel so left out .)
Although actually none of the children should have got a prize as a tomato is a fruit so they hadn't had any veg.

The teacher will probably think it's a fuss over such a minor thing but really it's a sign of how miserable your son has been if it's causing enough anxiety to tip him over the edge. Perhaps if you can convince the school that this is only the tip of the iceberg you might be right about it being a turning point.

Pixel thank you for your reply.
You are probably right,if there was one day that DS got a prize he wouldn't feel so left out.The only thing is the school don't get any say in what the fruit and veg is.Its a 'scheme' thats being run.
It's just been bad luck that DS hasn't liked the fruit so far.
To be honest i don't really agree with it.It just doesn't feel right bribing the DC to eat whatever the adults say is heathly.
At home DS all ways eats the fruit and veg he likes.Last night he had carrots, pineapple and kiwi.I have never worried that he wasn't eating heathly.
I can't help feeling that if the school, put has much into helping DS,has they have with this 'fooddudes' then there wouldn't be a problem.

The quiet ones who sit and rarely naughty present so few problems to schools that they don't get the help they deserve. I know in DS1's class there are behaviour charts going to and from parents to teachers, whereas DS1 has been denied a similar thing to say whether he has been happy at lunch/break times.

I was trying to tell School too that there was something with DS1. They won't get an EP for him. Got to be 2 years behind when in year 4!

I wonder if ds's school is doing the same 'scheme' then? Ds wouldn't eat any of it either, the only difference is he wouldn't care. It does seem a bit ridiculous that your school is making such a big deal of all this when it sounds as if your ds eats plenty of healthy things anyway.
Jerbil is right about the quiet ones being ignored, I've found this with my NT dd who is at mainstream. Because she doesn't cause any trouble she was more or less failing in everything before we found out about it (and several more weeks before we could get to speak to anyone at the school about it but that's another story) and now it's all probably too late for her to catch up. I'm sure if she'd been playing up in class we'd have been informed much sooner that there was a problem!
Luckily ds's SN school is much more on the ball. At his last IEP meeting his teacher reassured me that they were making sure that he got lots of 1:1 time because the rest of the class is quite noisy and lively so ds gets a bit lost and tends to switch off. She said "as ds is such a good boy it would be all too easy for him to be overlooked". I could have kissed her!

After a weekend of feeling pretty upset about DS hitting the other boy,i wasn't looking forwards to picking him up from school today.I was all prepared to tell his teacher that DS wasn't to be given any more of the fruit and veg,if it was upsetting him so much.But he has eaten both today,because he liked them.(banana and peas).I wonder how many teachers would eat something they didn't like?
But today he has by all accounts been rude to the TA.DS has never been rude to anyone before.His teacher said that a group of boys were doing something they shouldn't have been doing.The TA told them to stop and DS was rude to her.To be honest i was abit shocked so didn't ask for further details.
I have just asked DS about it, and he said that the TA had told them to stop fighting.So DS told her they weren't fighting they were playing tag.DS was then told off for answering back.
I really don't know what to do.