Am wondering why CAMHS are visiting just me?

[CuriousMama]

Ds2 has been to camhs for CBT (he has a phobia) Someone from there also visited school as he has problems concentrating and laughs etc.. He also has an appointment with a DR, possibly to help assess him? I felt he may have aspergers but am unsure tbh?

Anyway, last time I spoke to the nurse who did the cbt with him she said we'll leave that until after the dr's appointment, and concentrate on one thing at a time. Then today she rings as she 'wants to have a word with me' about something? And is coming to my home to see me alone? It's worried me a bit tbh. I wish she'd given me a clue on the phone instead of leaving it so vague?

Has anyone else had a lone home visit? She's bringing a student with her too though.

Oh and he's yr6.

Don't panic.

She'll just ask you lots of background information, starting with the birth and how he has developed, what difficulties you've noticed, etc etc etc.

Just taking a full history in a nice quiet house while he's at school.

IME of having these home visits sprung on me I would ring back and clarify what its about just say you would like to be prepared to have any relevant milestones/ notes etc with you so wondering what its about. That way you will know in advance :)

Thanks. I've already seen her a couple of times with ds2 and we have an appointment with a dr who I thought was taking all those details down? I think I'll ring her as I'll only be worrying all weekend. If they were worried about me as a parent it'd be SS wouldn't it? Not that I have any worries there as am as good a parent as you can be, not perfect but good.

She rang back. It's to go over the classroom assessment. A guy went in and took details the other week. She's said ds2 shows a lot of autistic traits. I've been shouting this for years and it's taken until he's 11 to be heard I was in tears when I came off the phone. My poor boy. So misunderstood. There are at least 5 autistic men/boys in my family.

I hope he gets a proper diagnosis before September when he goes to Comp? I'm worried for him getting to school too as he'd have to get a public bus then walk for 10 mins or so? There is a school bus but only for the Catholic dcs. DS1 is on it but I pay £87 per half term for him and he had to wait for that.

I just feel so drained. It's been a hard month with my lovely aunt dying and then my brother took seriously ill. He's out of hospital this afternoon, we worried he wouldn't be coming out.

I rang my neice, her ds has autism so I knew she'd be very supportive. And she was Her ds was diagnosed years ago and has adhd too. He can be very aggressive. DS2 isn't aggressive but he does get annoyed when he doesn't 'get' something.

One of my best friend's sons is also autistic so will talk to her tonight. She's always known about my ds2 really as have I. It's just seeming so final now. Hard to describe really?

You dont have to describe it we have all felt it :)

Hugs to you and fingers crossed that he gets a dx quick. She is coming to go over it yes and I would imagine she would be suggesting perhaps a multi -disiplinary pathway to assess further. Think of it as a way of getting your lovely child understood by school, etc and opening doors to help (which you probably will still have to fight for but at least have a right too!)

Thanks coff33pot. How are you doing? I know you've been through the mill lately. Hugs back to you.

LOL I could probably hijack your thread with 50 pages worth today LOL! as I am a teasy person today!

Thanks for the hugs though much appreciated :)

It is good that you have your neice to talk things through lovely to have support from someone who understands in RL :)

Hijack away if you want to

Yes it's very good to have her to talk to. She's only a few years younger than me. She has bi-polar to cope with as well as her ds. The benefit money she gets helps her a lot as it's hard for her to work. She said I should be entitled but not looking into that yet am more concerned with dx.