what to do?

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I hope no one minds me posting here, I wasnt sure where else to go.

My husband and I are concerned , our 8 year old daughter has always been a bit "eccentric" not quite one of the crowd and prone to "outbursts"

recently things have become quite intense, examples are she wont sleep in her bed, but on the floor as her duvet "hurts".

she had huge meltdowns, she cried for 20mins ( a howl of grief) because her lolly had a piece broken off.

We have a lot going o in our family as our 3 year old has a lot of medical needs and things.
We have had dealings with CAHMS a few years back as she only slept for 3 or 4 hours a night , CAmhs were useless and discharged her suggesting she had ADHD without offering any help and things did seem to be ok, although our other daughter had serious problems at that time and this sounds awful, our focus was on her.

School have not mentioned any concerns and although every morning she says she doesnt wasnt to go, she then goes happily and seems to enjoy it.

Does any of this sound familiar, should we be seeking help at this time, or riding it out.

Talk to the school speacial needs co-ordinater/SENCO and keep going back until you get an aswer.

Possibly on the Autistic spectrum but maybe just wants some attention. If she's settled in school it might be they can manage her outbursts differently and can suggest something.

I would ask for a referral to a developmental paediatrician for an assessment. Go into GP with a list of all her behaviours and quirks and include examples.

If it turns out she's just having a rough time then fair enough but if there is an underlying condition then the diagnosis process takes a long time so you may as well start the ball rolling.

Do talk to school and ask if they have noticed anything, e.g. getting overly upset. It may be that she does and they don't think to pass it on to you, or it may be that she is ok at school. Neither are indicative that there is or isn't something amiss. Many children fo example on the autistic spectrum will show behaviours only in one setting such as home or school and not in the other.

thank you so much, we have a good paediatrician we see with our younger daughter , I will run it past him and see, thanks