My DS just 4, has been giving me cause for concern over the past few years especially with his social skills. He also has sensory issues, food, noise and clothes. And is slow with his gross and fine motor skills. He looks( to me )to be behind his peers in many aspects especially socially. He will not go to parties, he likes soft play but as long as no one else is there, as soon as it gets busy he wants to leave. He does not iniate play with other children, either with children he knows already or other children in play places. This is also the same at parks, swimming baths etc. DS seems lost and will shout out random stupid words like pumpy and sausages, it?s as if he does not know what to do. He is friendly with adults and can talk for England to any adult.
At home he prefers for me to play with him and finds it difficult to keep himself occupied for any length of time. He is easily distracted and moves from one project to the next and never finishes. He has never sat for longer than 5 mins watching anything on TV, unless its his one of two fave programs. He also gets focused on detail rather than listening to the whole picture, especially in books. Yet refuses to do jigsaws or anything that needs effort.
He is quite well behaved and is not prone to tantrums however he can get stuck in his ways and get upset about things very easily. He will do anything to avoid some situations by lying or stressing
He is at nursery 5 mornings a week, and according to them he is doing ok. Feedback from them is that he strong willed and has some fine motor issues. And that he plays quite well with others.
My problem is, that I am worried that if he does not get into his first choice or second choice school (which is highly likely even though we live less than 0.45 miles from either) that is going to be left floundering at this 3rd choice school due to his lack of social skills.
This school is a good school, but does not do as well academically as the other two, he will not know anyone there at all and many (70%) apparently don?t have English as their first language.
I was wondering do people think that having the majority of his peers not speaking English as a first language. Will it be disadvantageous to him in a social context, what about play dates. How do the children communicate with each other. I know that they will all learn eventually, but how long does it take.
Also does my DS problems warrant cause for concern.
I was diagnosed with dyslexia 18 years ago, although I think my problems are APD related. I find social communication very stressful. Also trying to express myself via typing is very stressful and complicated. I have no idea if what I have written makes any sense.
Thanks for getting this far, hope it makes some sort of sense.I would be grateful for anyones help and advice