DS is having fighting in the playground ... ADHA?

[wisey905]

Hi i'm very new to this site so please bare with me. I have a DS who is nearly 10 last year we had him tested for being dyslexia which he was. We are paying a private tutor every week to help him with his reading, spelling, maths and general memory. He loves these lessons. I'm lucky my ex husband pays for these lessons as they are £45 per hour ... yes I know how much. The problem is DS is having problems in the playground he can't control his temper. He gets angry with other boys (only). He will shout, hit, kick them. He ends up in trouble most days. Fed up with getting a phone call from school about his behaviour. Its really strange as at home he is a lovely little boy. Very caring and gets up set very easy with someone shouting at him. He finds it difficult to sit still, school says he is immature (I can?t see that), short attention span and become easily distracted, restless. Been to the doctors last week and he is going to get him tested for ADHD. If he has ADHD why hasn?t the school picked this up ? like they didn?t pick up him being dyslexia.

He has been labled a naughty child from reception or compaired to his sister which is totally unfair on him as they are both different people.

Feel his school is not helping him. I have a meeting with headmaster, special needs teacher and his teacher tomorrow morning. I wanted him to be statemented but they said his grades for to good ... he is nearly 10 and his reading ability is that of an 8 year old. Can't spell, handwriting is bad, below on maths etc.

He usually is so good at home but this weekend he got so angry he looks like he'll explode. His face contorts, he goes bright red, his fists are in tight balls, screaming and shouting at my boyfriends son who is 20.

Hope this make sense could do with any advice about this meeting tomorrow with the school.

Please go back to the school and demand that your child be statemented. I am dyslexic myself and my parents too were told the same about me. The point is if your child doesn't get statemented he will quickly fall behind in secondary school and stay in the bottom sets till he leave this happened to me.
We are currently starting out on the same track with our daughter there is a shortage of funding and schools do not want to spend it on children getting statemented because if the child then requires help they need to sort it out for them. My parents finally had me statemented at the age of 17 by which point I had found out I could have had extra time in exams and assistance with questions. If the school will not help you go to senco and ask them if they can put you in touch with someone who can statement your child and explain that the school he goes to is refusing to help. The statement will mean they will have to help him.

Academic level is to some extent irrelevant. If they are having difficulty, they need support. DS2 has dx of ADHD (among other things). He has a FT 1:1 statement, and he is ahead of most of the his peers academically. It's all to do with what support they need, not what grades they get.