activities to support socialisation for 9yr old with ADHD?

[lou19]

Posting on here on behalf of a friend. Her 9yr old really struggles with socialisation, he gets on well enough with children outside of school when they do family activities etc, but does not have any friends as such. In school, he is not popular and not allowed out at playtime due to his behaviour, so very isolated. Does anyone have any ideas for activities that could help him to make some friends/learn about appropriate behaviours around his peers/ increase his confidence? Also are there any support groups for children with ADHD/SEN and or behavioural problems in London? Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you

I dont know about groups in london but i do know that stopping a child with adhd from running around outside is ridiculous and cruel.

Your friend needs to apply for a statement so that the child can access support to help him play appropriately.

My DS has a 1:1 TA at lunchtimes to SHOW him social skills, supported by the ASD outreach team. Your friend needs to push for the same. Does the child have a statement?

Kids pick up on adult attitudes so if he's being kept in every lunchtime the other children are not being encouraged to befriend him at school. Nothing he does outside school will change this until the school gets themselves sorted - he's being deliberately isolated from his peers.

The Mum needs to tackle this at source with the school, in her shoes a change of school is where I'd start. It might also be worth her applying for a statement.

cubs or scouts, whichever age group he fits into. they have lots of kids with adhd and learn appropriate behaviour as well as doing loads of activities.

but yes, does he have social skills targets of his iep at school? they sound as though they are dealing with him spectacularly inappropriately, so i would also be making an appointment with the ct and senco and discussing behaviour management and how they are supporting him.

Theres a facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/adhd2011/ has the lady who is part of ADDiss posts on it she is from the London area

And: www.facebook.com/groups/ADDISS/

Aaaaargh - they keep him indoors at break time? What planet are these people on?

And ditto what Bochead said.

thank you that is quite illuminating and confirms what my friend has been feeling- that the school could do more. I agree that keeping a child in at playtime is discriminatory and does not help him to move forward. they are being pretty vague when it comes to discussing what strategies they are willing to put in place to help him. re statement, they reckon he won't meet the threshold, same old irony as ever. however the idea of a one-to-one support during playtime sounds v good to me. it's just about working out how to get it without a statement. thank you for your responses!

My dd is 8 and goes to taekwondo where there are many kids with autism, ADHD, tourettets etc she is also a member of a football team. Our local kids rugby club also have a lot of kids with ADHD on their team

Scouts is great for team building and socialising and are SN friendly.

The school definately needs tackling. DS goes out to morning playtime but by lunchtime he is overloaded and cant cope so he has to stay in (he is actually happy with this). But they allow him to choose someone to play with him and encourage play/activities with the adult role playing the social skills iyswim.