Jerbil....I second your frustration when trying to get help for HFA kids.
I knew from about 6 months that my DS had an issue...but I couldnt figure out what it was. I work in the area of child development so when I went to the GP he poo-poohed my concerns ''because you work in the area, you are looking for problems that aren't there'. Ditto at his developmental check-ups.
He finally got his diagnosis at 71/2...and I feel guilty that I let it go so long without help for him.
abeltasman...I do wonder if part of the issue with professionals missing the picture when kids are 4,5,6 is that they look at their part of the picture only and our kids are not yet 'different enough'- but we can see the overall picture from much earlier.
I changed my GP and when I first raised the issue with her, her reaction was 'I am a great believer in mum's intuition'.
dolfrog...thanks for all the links- I will work my way through them slowly.