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Bad morning..........bad week for that matter.

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detoxneedednow · 20/02/2012 10:03

Morning.

Really sorry, I'm posting a lot recently, but I really don't know who else to talk to who understands.

I've had some great advice recently about how I can help my dd with her behaviour/social skills and i'm definitely going to take it on board. Currently though, I just feel so angry, bitter, exhausted, confused, panicky and just plain sad.

When I dropped her off at school this morning she was so bouncy and talking complete nonsense. Some of the dc's were laughing at her. She thinks that that means they like her, but I know they make fun of her because i've seen and heard it, which I will be mentioning at parents evening tomorrow. I know however, that i'll get the usualHmm look from the teacher who never seems to think that there's a problem!!

Last night was a nightmare. She was screaming like a wild animal and kept laughing at my frustration and anger. She does have empathy so this is out of character. When she's like this, she is completely defiant, rude, has really bad communication skills, constantly talks randomly and out of context and will not stop spinning. The last week or so, she does this thing where she will run backwards and forwards in the living room for about an hour. Usually shouting "look at me everybody!!"

I feel like my head is going to explode. I'm on the edge of tears all the time. This moring I completely avoided eye contact with any of the other parents because I was so upset by her behaviour. I knew if anyone spoke to me i'd probably break down.

I don't really know why i'm posting. I'm just completely lost..........again. I'm feeling like such a bad mum because I get angry and embarassed. I know I shouldn't feel like this. She is my dd and of course I love her unconditionally, but this feeling of resentment is becoming overwhelming. Not with dd, but with the situation.

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detoxneedednow · 20/02/2012 13:45

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EllenJaneisnotmyname · 20/02/2012 16:00

Detox, I'm sorry you are feeling so down. I'm not sure how to advise you except to say that how you're feeling is completely normal. I have good days and bad days, I suppose you just keep going on because you have to. If you think you are spiralling down into depression please go and see your GP. What is your RL support like? Do you have any local support groups? Sometimes just sharing your experience with people who understand and don't judge can really make a difference. We can only offer virtual Brew and sympathy, but at least we can do that. Xx

ouryve · 20/02/2012 16:11

No advice, detoxneedednow, but just saying I can totally empathise with how difficult it is to stay positive faced with this sort of behaviour. DS1 was much like this on Friday and Sunday. Friday was the letdown after a planned day out on Thursday. Yesterday was back to school angst. It's stressful and hard not to get just as irate and shouty as he is when he's taking it out on DS2.

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detoxneedednow · 20/02/2012 16:48

Thank you.

Like I said, I don't really know what i'm asking for really. I've had so much good advice on here and I don't think I can ask for more. I'm just struggling.

Ellen, i'm actually already having CBT, but not for long. I think i'm on my 5th week. The thing is, that's more for coping with my anxiety rather than actually talking about my current issues, which there are a lot of unfortunately. I know i'm not the only one, I really do.

I think it's the constant change in personality that I find the most difficult to deal with. I start to accept that she has problems and then she goes back to being a little angel who is calm and very bright and they're aren't any changes in her routine or diet, it just happens. Then I get used to that dd and it goes back to her being a nightmare. But more to the point, a different child. I don't think my brain or emotions can keep up.

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Becaroooo · 20/02/2012 19:02

detox Its v v hard when you are in a situation (like school drop off/pick up etc) where your childs differences from their peers are so manifest Sad

I had an incident last week - my aunt came for a visit and hasnt seen the dc for ages - and she was just Hmm about how to talk to/treat ds1. I guess I am so used to his little "quirks" that when I see him through the eyes of others it really brings it home to me Sad

oodlesofdoodles · 20/02/2012 20:11

I'm not on commission but I should be for the frequency I recommend the Out of Sync Child book. It explained why my dc needs sensory stimulation like running round the living room (for ds its bumping into lamp posts and rolling on the pavement) and how to direct it positively.

detoxneedednow · 21/02/2012 10:16

Beca, I completely relate to the situation with your aunt. You sometimes forget or get so used to your dc's difficulties or quirks that when it's re highlighted like that, it's like you're seeing a different child.

oodles, you probably should get some kind of royalty for your advertisingGrin If it's a book that has helped you so much I don't blame you raving about it. Will definitely look out for it.

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