Ok ladies, I need some measured responses here, becasue I'm feeling really cross. Bascially my son is 4.8 in reception. He is being assessed for ASD, he's dyspraxic and has sensory issues, (amongst other things). He has a statement and a full time ta. In his statement it says that he will need help with toileting.
Generally, he is capable of taking himself for a wee, although he struggles to get his clothes back up. He can also go for a poo, but struggles to clean himself properly so will end up sore. This is not usually a problem as he usually does not go at school, and waits until he';s home an I or dad will help him. Occassionally, when he does go at school, he comes home pulling at his bottom as he's obviously uncomfortable.
Tbh this has only happened very occasionally and has not been really bad so I've not made a big issue of it. Mainly becasue they are great at most things and I dont want to start on the wrong foot as I've been quite millitant in obtaining his statement and I think they think I'm a bit nuts anyway.
However today I got a phone call saying please could I come and collect my son as he had the runs and was in a mess. I got there expecting to find him in other clothes and needing to come home. What I actually found was my son naked from the waist down, covered in crap. To make it worse, it was everywhere, on the floor, on the walls, everywhere and he was stood in it!.
They had told him to try and clean himself up and to stay in the cubicle until I got there. They had then put cat litter on the floor over the mess. So to clarify, he's stood in bare feet in cat litter and shit. He has crap all down his legs and on his hands as he cant stand the feeling of the cat litter on his bare feet so hes leaning on the wall trying to rub it off one foot and then putting his foot back down only to try and rub it off the other foot. (This is how it ended up all over his hands and the walls).
As I've said he has dyspraxia and sensory processing disorder so he physically cant coordinate himself to do it and he cant stand the feeling of the cat litter.! All the time this is going on, other children are trying to come into the toilets! although tbf the TA did tell them to go to the other ones. It didnt stop them seeing him though. The ta told me she'd been told to leave him until I got there.
I rang the head and complained and she said it was their policy for parents to come in and deal with it. I pointed out that he still could at least have had a towel put round him and been moved away from it. Also that it was in his statement, that he would be helped with toileting. She asked if they had my permission to clean him up should it happen again and that they would note that down so in the future his ta would sort him. She seemed to think this resolved the matter. I hung up as my son needed the toilet again, but the more I keep thinking about it the angrier I'm getting.
Surley the fact that he has a statement saying he will need help with toileting just makes it worse, but shouldnt they have a duty of care, not to leave any child like that? and if they were concered about child protection type issues then why didnt they ask when they rang me if they could clean him up?
Someone please tell me what I should do. I feel really cross. I dodnt want to make waves for the sake of it, but I really dont want to think of any other child being left like this?
Sorry for rambling, if any one could tell me if this seems right or what the policies are regarding this in their school,s I'd be grateful
Thanks