What can I do?

[Lovelyboys]

DS1 2.8 dx GDD ASD in OCT 2011, we dint really want to waste any time, so we
started ABA with 1 tutor in December , GOt the consultant in January first week and started with 3 tutors who were given a structure to follow including lots of play, and getting him excited and building his trust as he is one of the under stimulated kid.
My feelings are DS1 has learnt to tolerate them around and also does not mind going out with them but he has the biggest smile when they leave. .. His anxiety levels increased, his stims have increased , becomes more clingy, sinse past few weeks.
DH took 2 weeks off and doing lots of play with him and he has started to copy and engaging with us more , he even attended another session at another family doing ABA and found out that our tutors not doing enough rough and tumble play with him.
Spoke to tutors about our feelings and asked to do more rough and rumble play and physical play with him to get him excited and make him feel that sessions are just about him but haven't seen them implement yet.
I getting very sad for my DS1 because I know he can.
I have had a c- section last nov which is why I can't do physical play or rough and tumble with him therefore I have to depend on the tutors to get him excited/stimulated.
What can I do?
Should we look for alternate tutors?
Really confused and feel frustrated, kindly share your views / experience , thanks for reading

It's hard when you Start because you don't know what your are looking for but my goodness there are some awful and expensive tutors out there.

Did yours come recommended? Do you know of any families that has tutors with spare time? Did your consultant 'train' them properly?

Hi star,
I know it is difficult but what's frustrating is that even tough the consultant trained them, they are still not doing using the reinforcers(I.e. rough and tumble play) as they should.
We found the tutors from website called findabatutors.com, we stay in reading, Berkshire and don't really have many tutors around this area, have tried putting an advert at the reading university but they are all freshers. I think I will repost the thread with diff subject to see if someone can recommend any tutors in this area, what do u think?

Try posting on ABA UK yahoo group.

Also VB Community (I got most of my good ones from there, - not by putting on an advert but by searching through the adverts from tutors not just currently but from years and years ago and then cold-contacting them. Many weren't available but the odd one is plus with even more years experience iyswim). YOu can do this on ABA UK too.

Childcare.co.uk is a good source of information about potential trainable tutors. A few trainee teachers looking for tutor/SEN type work to add to their CV so can be cheap, but already understand an element of child development etc. But you do have to spend hours on that site to find them. They are there though.

You might want to put an ad on ABA UK, not TO tutors but to parents asking if any of them have any tutors with availability that they can recommend and to message you privately.

Thanks star, will do all and keep posting, you showed me hope

We has a meeting with consultant today and spoke about increasing stims and other issues that we were anxious about, he spend some time with DS1 and realised the approach has to be different, he will give written instructions and also train tutors, told us to be patient for few more weeks to see if tutors still doing what is asked or not, feel better today