New approach to sanity being taken

[Triggles]

I've decided that I'm allowing the dreadful threads that bash benefits and disabilities to bother me far too much. As of right now, I'm avoiding them.

Mainly because:

• it's a free for all, and MN never seems to delete the truly offensive stuff, which upsets me greatly
• I'll never change people's minds, as they are set in their ways and don't want to be educated
• even if I try to educate, people put up these anecdotes that have GOT to be urban legend material as it is so patently ridiculous
• I'm TIRED of trying to educate and explain. REALLY REALLY TIRED of it.

Ironic that as DH is doing better, I am spiralling down somewhat. Perhaps it's the fact that I can actually LET myself fall apart a bit, as I've had to hold everything together by myself for the past 2 years.

But I'm going to start hiding threads and ignoring those that are offensive rather than argue the toss. Life's too short and stressful to repeatedly bang my head on a brick wall, which is what it always feels like when reading those threads.

"Them as matter don't mind & them as mind don't matter"

My Granny's mantra but it's true dat!. Repeat it as many times a day as needed in order to "keep calm & carry on".

Trig, you've done your bit. You have enough of your own problems without taking on the nations as well. Now and then you can revisit and chip away but not at the expense to your family.

Glad to hear DH is doing a bit better.

Can totally relate to as DH gets better you get worse......

Because you're right, if your DH is coping, you can afford to not to.

It's not your job to educate the whole world :)

It is your job to look after yourself, and your family.

Thank you. Hope everyone is doing well.

Maybe I'll get cards printed up that say "I'm offering no explanations and no excuses for any behaviour. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

Hi Triggles. Sorry to hear you are struggling. Maybe it's been the fighting for everything that has been keeping you going, and being able to relax somewhat after seeing the SS and DH pulling his weight means the adrenaline isn't there. (((hugs)))

Triggles, my dear, one cannot educate pork.

You are bashing your lovely head against a porcine brick wall. Hide the thread. Let them have their belief in the Miffical Plasma Telly Innit if it makes them feel more worthy.

Concentrate on you and your family Triggles.

As the saying goes you can lead a horse to water but cant make it drink.................might like to drown a few though lol

You cannot take on the world single handedly and sadly there are a right ignorant lot out there who are hardly going to change channel and admit they were wrong. As I have said before their cup is always half empty and they think those on benefits have cups that are brimming over. Jealousy is a horrible trait.

Shut your door to it and concentrate on what is important YOU x

EstellaJane - yes, I suspect that is exactly what it is. DH is starting to do better, DS2's school has been decided upon (although now we need to organise it), and I am just tired, I think. It's all caught up with me and I'm just exhausted.

colditz educating pork. The funny thing is, we don't have a plasma telly.

coff33pot I do think concentrating on my family is the best course of action. I'm so tired of feeling under attack all the time when we go out. It's hard to tune out this stuff, but I must. I have a fairly thick skin for some things, but I've really had a difficult time developing it for this.

I do believe that fighting things can keep you going to some extent, but the let down afterwards is difficult.