Advice for Aspergers and Hitting

[Ferb]

Hi, this is my first post.

I just need some advice. We moved to Spain last year. My 7y/o is hitting kids at school. (Mainstream) He's not a bad kid, he's very likeable, he also has Aspergers (flaps a lot and other such stuff that comes with it...) but I will not use this as an excuse for this behaviour.
Thing is, every day he comes out of school, he's done something. Teachers seem very biased, and he seems to be taking the blame for everything. I know kids will be kids, and I know he is no angel, but this is going beyond stupid now. Nothing I've said to him or tried to explain with picture cards has had any impact on him.
I'm sort of at hair-tearing-out stage now, I just don't know what else I can do. In the UK we were discharged by Paed, GP's are useless with ASD issues, HV's also don't have a clue as they just keep referring us so I'm pretty much out on a limb here.
I am on my own with him and his little bro who is almost 2.
He seems to be ok with the language.

Ferb :(

Yes I agree, it is different. I've just got to the point where I just don't know what else to do. I like your scale chart idea. Thanks for that. Can't see the woods for the trees at the moment but I will get there. I just feel so embarrassed of it happening every single day. School don't make any effort to help. They have all the necessary paperwork but it's been filed and forgotten about.

Thanks for taking the time to reply. x

Hi,
My son is 5 and in the process of diagnosis. He hits out too, but thankfully school are very supportive and can see that he doesn't mean to, he hits if you are too close to him, disturb his current obsession, or if he's in meltdown. It's his version of 'flapping' I think, just very unfortunate.
He currently only does half days, and today they rang me to pick him up while I was still outside the school at 9.04am! as in that time he'd hit children, kicked the LSA and then the headteacher. They deal with it in a very kind, loving and sensitive manner but I am still very upset and mortified by it and feel so sad for him. Today they've admitted they are really struggling with him and mentioned specialist schools, having done some research on local ones it's a valid option (as it home schooling) I just feel all up in the air about it.